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everything in my life is the worst it’s ever been. i’ve been in a terrible accident, i’ve disappointed my whole family, i’m going through a breakup with my best friend, my person, my love, i no longer have a car. i don’t have money because i have no time for a job. its just so frustrating that right when a week is finally okay suddenly my small world and happiness i’ve built up is completely torn down again. i feel like i’m drowning. i’ve lost all motivation to do anything, i can hardly even convince myself to shower or wash my face or eat or just do daily tasks. i’m in college and my classes are killing me too. my life just feels so messed up right now and i’m really really hurting. my heart hurts so bad, it feels literally physically broken.

i guess i’m just looking for words of encouragement that it does get better, that things will be okay. i’m struggling to think anything positive right now and i feel like i have no one.

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Hello and welcome, were you involved in a car accident and what happened. ?

Reading above it sounds like you feel unable to control your life and because of that you feel out of control and lacking self respect because of the accident.

Have you talked to your Doctor and discussed your fears and expectations.

I am seventy now and I felt very much the same, in my case I picked the wrong subjects to study and it was near on impossible to talk out my errors. I tried to change the subject and was stopped by my parents. I even looked into move to a different country to get away from a great deal of conflict at work and home.

You need to consider how you wish to proceed in your life we all make errors in life and need to come to terms and move on accordingly. You need to talk out your fears and move on

BOB

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i’m going to try to talk to a therapist as soon as possible. i have been working on expressing my fears and asking for help and it definitely brings me a little more peace. thank you.

Hey Ashlynn8, that sounds like a really heavy burden to be carrying. It’s great that you brought it here and are reaching out to get support. I’ve been in that really dark place many times, it sucks and you never know if things will change for the better. Truth is... they do. They always get better at some point. A friend shared this quote with me recently, “the storm always passes.” At the time when she shared that, I brushed it off thinking it was hogwash. But, now that I reflect on it more, it’s starting to resonate.

I spend a looooot of time alone, and while I have the occasional friend that I connect with, the vast majority of my time is spent in my 1sq foot of real estate... by myself. It’s frustrating... that’s why I joined this forum, to make connections to hopefully feel less alone.

You’ll get through this... taking things second by second will help slow everything down and you can appreciate even the smallest wins. Here if you want to chat.

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thank you. i appreciate you

I have been in your situation. Sometimes college years can be such a struggle. There are so many pressures and at that time in our lives, still being young with many experiences still to have, each problem seems to loom so large. Now that I am well past those years I can see that it was so many new experiences all at once. It made it all so overwhelming!

Things will definitely get better. All of life has its ups and downs. Focus one one thing at a time. What is most important for your future? That is a good one to focus on.

You are important. Put your focus on what will give you the best possible future. The rest will fall into place. ❤️

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i agree focusing on my future and letting everything fall into place is important. thank u 💓

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Hi ashlynn8! I hope you are doing OK physically after the accident. College is hard and an enormous amount of work . It takes a lot of self-discipline to juggle your time and get everything accomplished. Add a breakup to the mix and it would create a real struggle. Allow yourself a little time to mourn the loss of the relationship, but then focus on the task at hand. You can try prioritizing the work by, what needs to be done first and what can be finished quickly. You can do it. I am rooting for you.

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thank you. your supportive words are exactly what i needed. ❤️

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Hugs and Prayers.

<<Insert virtual hug>> here!!!! Everything will work out within time. Try not to focus on everything at once. Set yourself mini-goals and reward yourself upon completion. Then move on to the next mini-goal, and so forth. Once your confidence is regained, you can start working on those bigger goals one at a time. This time, it will be a little more difficult and time-consuming but you got this! Definitely look into some kind of therapy. Some schools have counseling available for its students...check into it. Again, we are here too for online support and sounding board!

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