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We said goodbye to our sweet cat, Oliver, this morning. Last week we found out he was in advanced kidney failure, his red blood cell count was low, and he had lost almost a pound since April putting him close to 5 pounds. He continued to get worse over the last week and we made the tough decision to let him go. We adopted him as a 4-month-old kitten and he turned 18 last June. Longest we've ever had a pet and may always be the record. He was a good boy and tough - loved boxes and small hiding places, was an escape artist which is why he was lost once in the winter for four months, became blind 4 years ago, had high blood pressure, was going deaf, and other issues. But he kept going. So sad to say goodbye today, and I struggled mightily with the decision, but he was ready to go. We love you, Oliver, sweet dreams baby boy.

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Alpakka123

My condolences to you. Pets are family, so it's heartbreaking when the time comes.So very sorry again.

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catsrock in reply toAlpakka123

Thank you!

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Roxylox in reply toAlpakka123

I'm very sorry for your loss.

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Alpakka123 in reply toRoxylox

Hi Roxylox,I think this is meant for catsrock.

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Roxylox in reply toAlpakka123

Oh sorry Alpakka, it is.

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Alpakka123 in reply toRoxylox

No worries🙂

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Agora1

I'm so sorry catsrock. I feel your pain. xx

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catsrock in reply toAgora1

Thank you!

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Turnipgirl

Please accept my condolences on the loss of Oliver.

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catsrock in reply toTurnipgirl

Thank you!

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PeaceNeed

My heart felt condolences to you. I lost my two cats in 2018 and 2019 respectively. They were each 19 years old.

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catsrock in reply toPeaceNeed

Thank you. I'm sorry for the losses of your kitties.

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BorisAL

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm still recovering from the death of my dog in early July. It's kind of shocking how hard it can hit you...

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catsrock in reply toBorisAL

I'm so sorry about your loss too. Losing pets is really hard! They are family.

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Cb1963

Awe I'm so sorry to hear of your lovely cat going over the rainbow 🌈 Bridge, I've had several cats that have sadly passed away, it never gets easier 😢 but I have always remembered them with the love and affection they gave for free, all the daft things they got upto, and yes leaving me dead mice as a present!!! You'll have sad days ahead of you and bits of fur flying around the house, memories and knowing you gave him all the love and care possible, the pain is always there, but time heals the grief and the treasured memories will always remain ♥️

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catsrock in reply toCb1963

Thank you!

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Cb1963 in reply tocatsrock

🙏😇

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gajh

I am so sorry for your loss.

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catsrock in reply togajh

Thank you.

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CL3V3R-G1RL

My condolences to you 😔 I know the feeling. I put my girl (she's in my profile pic) down in May. She was 16yrs old. She just couldn't get up anymore. I didn't want her to hurt anymore. It's tough saying goodbye to a very dear friend. They are more than pets to us. Hope Oliver is playing with my cat Whiskas. He was a tuxedo cat. Whiskas was a talker. Hope they are together on the other side of Rainbow Bridge 🌈

Maybe one day we'll get to see them again 🥹

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catsrock in reply toCL3V3R-G1RL

Aww, thank you. I hope they are playing together too and with my cat, Spike, who I lost in 2017 who was Oliver's bud.

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Stippler

I am sorry for your loss. Sending thoughts and prayers. 🙏🙏🙏

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catsrock in reply toStippler

Thank you.

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Shnookie

so sorry for the loss of a beloved family member. Please keep fond memories of Oliver close to your heart. Hugs 🤗 S

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catsrock in reply toShnookie

Thank you!

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Shnookie in reply tocatsrock

you are very welcome

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Felinity

What a gorgeous boy. I know how much it hurts. On June 4 I had to say goodbye to my 15-year-old tuxedo girl Sweetpea. It broke my heart but our vet said she would only get worse, and she was already suffering. Some of her toys are still scattered around the house. I'm so sorry. Maybe my girl and your Oliver can play together over the Rainbow Bridge. I think they're happy now.

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catsrock in reply toFelinity

Thank you - I like to think of Oliver and Sweetpea playing. I'm sorry for your loss.

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secrets22

Losing a beloved pet can be worse than losing a human, they are a constant in our lives. My thoughts withyou.

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catsrock in reply tosecrets22

Thank you.

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Midori

So sorry for the loss of Oliver, but he sounds as if you gave him the best life!

Cheers, Midori

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catsrock in reply toMidori

Thank you - we tried!

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Pet_Collector

I am so sorry for your loss. I am definitely a pet lover and losing a pet is definitely like losing a loved one. I hope that, as hard as it is, you will be able to remember all the good times since he lived so long. And it sounds like he was a very talented escape artist❤️🤗

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catsrock in reply toPet_Collector

He was - haha! Thank you for your message.

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Roxylox

Sorry for your loss Catsrock.

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catsrock in reply toRoxylox

Thank you.

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bethelbee

I'm so sorry for your loss of Oliver. He looks just like my Holly I lost this time last year to cancer. She was just shy of her 19th birthday. I'll tell Holly to look after Oliver....🌈

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catsrock in reply tobethelbee

Aww - that's so sweet. Thank you.

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casablancalover14

I am sorry to hear about your sweet kitty. My mom lost her cat to the same kidney condition, and it broke her and my heart. Losing a pet is the same as losing a family member, because we treat them as family. You will always have Oliver in your heart and memory.😍🥰🥰

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catsrock in reply tocasablancalover14

Thank you so much.

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Tattooedvegan

I'm so sorry for your loss......

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catsrock in reply toTattooedvegan

Thank you.

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PourSomeSugarOnMe

so sorry for your loss, my beloved dog passed away recently and it’s just heartbreaking so I understand completely. ❤️

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catsrock in reply toPourSomeSugarOnMe

I'm sorry for your loss too. Thank you for your message.

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Willow2022

Oh Oliver sounds lovely. What a tough little cat. Sounds like you gave him the best life and I’m sure he knew and appreciated it. I am so sorry for your loss.

(((((((Hugs)))))))

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catsrock in reply toWillow2022

Thank you so much.

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LongestBlue

My condolences to you and your family! And sorry this is a later post, I live in Western Canada and read in the am when most posts have been up for over half a day. I so appreciate your post and celebrating the unique life of your beloved Oliver. Our pets are such brave soldiers. When we let our Niko go last spring after brain cancer I had read from another pet owner that a proper death is the final agreement we make when we become a pet parent. Such heart break yet necessary for these beautiful fur babies that have brought so much joy and love into our lives. Peace to you and yours.

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catsrock in reply toLongestBlue

Thank you so much. I'm sorry for the loss of Niko and your words really helped.

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Cavalierrubie

Thinking of you. Oliver is free. No more pain. Part of us goes with them. No one can take away the love that we have for them, which is forever.

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catsrock in reply toCavalierrubie

So true - thank you

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4doxys

very sorry for your loss.

So heart breaking when we lose our beloved pets

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catsrock in reply to4doxys

Thank you

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WastedDays

So sorry for your loss. It’s always so hard each time we loose a fur baby, but this gives me some peace.

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catsrock in reply toWastedDays

Thank you - I like to think of him running and playing again

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Angil64

So very sorry for the loss of your fur baby Oliver. I can relate. I lost my baby girl Kiona my dog on May 21,2024. She had cancer. I have been devastated since then. I think about her and just cry. I had her cremated and I sleep with her urn. I know sounds weird , but it helps me to feel that she’s close to me. She was 13 years old ,I got her when she was 6 weeks old. So very hard. Hang in there. ❤️

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catsrock in reply toAngil64

Thank you and not weird at all. They are family.

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Angil64 in reply tocatsrock

Yes they are!!

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Zhangliqun

I had a kitty who made it to just a few months short of 22. Her back legs stopped working. It was hard but it was time...

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catsrock in reply toZhangliqun

Wow - 22, that's amazing. Thank you for your message.

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Angil64 in reply toZhangliqun

22 wow! I had a cat that lived until 17.

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kenster1

heaven has another furry friend sorry to hear that god bless wee Oliver and sure he gave you 18 amazing years together.

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catsrock in reply tokenster1

He did! Thank you

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Skyp

So sorry to hear of your loss.i had to say goodbye to my 23 year old cat in April. So heartbreaking xx

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catsrock in reply toSkyp

Thank you - I'm sorry about your cat. 23 - wow!

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catsrock

Oh no, I'm sorry for the loss of your 3 cats in such a short time span. Thank you for your message. Yes, he was a very sweet boy.

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Gillyflower18

So sorry for your loss. He was a handsome boy. It's never easy.

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catsrock in reply toGillyflower18

Thank you

I understand your feelings. People’s pets are often just as important to them as their family—sometimes more.

We had three dachshunds for about 20 years, and had all three of them together for four or five years. When it became time for Louie (the last of the three)to be euthanized, we brought him to the vet and she tiptoed around the idea of euthanasia, but we had already decided to do it. She called in a technician to bring Louie into the surgery room for euthanasia but he came back in about 20 seconds and said that he could not do it because it was Louie. I know that everybody‘s dog is the smartest and cutest dog in the world, but Louie really was adorable.

I can only hope that I will be treated as humanely as Louie when it is my time.

Louie
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catsrock in reply to

Aww, Louie. He was adorable. Thank you for your message.

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Teaching

My condolences to your family.

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catsrock in reply toTeaching

Thank you

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MuffinFruit

hi there, I have been a cat lover all my life , and I am now 65,always owned cats since a kid and each time we had to say goodbye when there was no other option , the tears flowed for weeks , so I think I know exactly how you’re feeling. Cats to me are my family and when they pass away it’s a huge grieving process. My current cat is 11 yo and slowing down a bit and I’m so worried about her future, aches pains etc. though thankfully she’s still fit for age. Anyway please accept my condolences on your sweet fur baby, the grief is so real !

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catsrock in reply toMuffinFruit

Thank you so much. I've always owned cats too.

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MuffinFruit in reply tocatsrock

They’re the best! Even though the heartache at the end is the worst thing imaginable, I try to remember all the joy and love they have given us during their lives too - take care x

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Cookie2217

My husband and I are so sad for the loss of your sweet boy Oliver. We lost our Maine Coon cat Bella on May 25, 2024, having to make the same tough decision as you did because she had oral cancer. Bella was only 7 years old and she was robbed of a lot of life because of that damn cancer. She started to get a bump on the side of her face and we took her to the vet right away and the first vet was actually right cuz she said we need to pray it's cancer so my husband took her with me to another vet for a second opinion and he confirmed the diagnosis of oral cancer. My husband was in a little bit of denial but looked on the internet and watched many videos and came to the conclusion that she did have oral cancer as well. He just didn't want to see the truth that's all cuz he loved his baby girl. Bella was my first pet I've ever had in my life and I'm so heartbroken. Bella get the absolute world to us see even slept in our bed between us every single night we miss her so terribly. She lost half of her body weight with his 20 days so we had to make the tough decision to put her down as well. She also had her right eye starting to bulge out and we realized that the oral cancer probably went up through her nasal cavity and we couldn't risk the chance of this cancer hurting her anymore so we had to let her go over the Rainbow Bridge and now she is running free of pain add decease too. My husband is not ready for another pet I don't think that I am either cuz we're still grieving her so hard but I hope to get another Maine Coon because they are the most beautiful cats in the world because they seek out human attention more so than their own breed and they're so sweet and loving. Again sorry for the loss of your handsome Oliver.

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catsrock in reply toCookie2217

Aww, that's so sad. I'm very sorry for your loss too - Bella sounds like an amazing, loving cat. I lost my cat, Spike, to cancer in 2017 so I know how hard that is. I know you made the right decision with Bella, but it's so hard. I hope she and Oliver and all the other kitties are playing together.

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Cookie2217 in reply tocatsrock

Thank you catsrock! Love you screen name by the way. Yes, Bella was amazing in every way. So sorry to hear of you cat Spike passing too in 2017. I'm grieving so hard for her my husband is too. You never get over this loss I guess in time the pain lessons I hope it does anyway. I cry everyday. I have to remember the good memories that we had with Bella like her playing hide and seek with my husband he would walk in and out of the kitchen and around the living room and she would follow him and stop when he stopped it was hysterical. Bella also slept in our bed every night we miss her at night especially it's not quite as warm she used to sleep right underneath my husband's arm and on my stomach. We love her so much we'll always miss her.

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Midori

Gorgeous looking boy!

Cheers, Midori

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