Help with libido

[florapeace]

I’m not sure if it’s my depression or my SSRIs, but I have no sex drive. My boyfriend is threatening to leave me if I don’t figure something out... is there any quick way to fix this and increase my libido? He is all I have left and I’m so hurt

[autumnthebrat2]

Sometimes Wellbutrin is added to an ssri to increase libido

[JFishing2]

How long have you been on SSRIs?

[florapeace in reply to JFishing2]

For almost a year now

[JFishing2 in reply to florapeace]

I see. I was wondering if it was just an initial side effect that would eventually disappear, but it’s been a while.

[nic013]

i totally understand the frustration with libido! but im worried that this mentality of “i have to increase libido or my bf will leave” will never have a good outcome. when i was dealing with this (still am) the best things i did were to bring up my concerns with my partner and have a real conversation about it. we came up with ways we could connect without feeling pressure and set “date” nights to get into a routine. i know this sucks to hear but really if your person isn’t willing to work with you on this, and instead is just adding stress, they really are not being a supportive partner! pressure to perform is only going to make the problem worse and add anxiety and frustration. i hope they will be open to communication on this with you! we found a way to make it fun to come up with ideas to connect and not make it a source of stress. rooting for you! good luck

[FearIsALiar]

What meds are you on?

[Hidden]

maybe it’s your thyroid. if your hormones are out of order, it can affect libido, slow brain function and make you depressed or worsen depression. If you haven’t already, you should talk to your bf and let him know what’s going on. btw, ‘if’ your bf leaves you because you wouldn’t have sex, that’s not your fault, he chose to leave and you were never obligated to have sex with him in the first place. if he’s threatening you for not having sex, that’s a huge red flag.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Very true.

[Laurennnnnnn]

Some meds do that 😩

I ended up changing SSRIs because it messed up my sex drive so badly.

I know some doctors can prescribe another med to help counteract the lack of sex drive but I never tried it

I just know switching pills made a huge difference for me

As as awkward as it is, tell your psychiatrist/doctor/whoever is managing your meds. I was terrified to tell mine and once I said it he was super chill lol he was like “ah yeah that happens a lot, let’s fix it”. So they’re used to the weird questions 😂

[JCPrague]

SSRIs very often decrease libido. It is probably due to them. It is true that Buproprion does not cause this problem.