My mental health is at stake here.😤

[KateAddy]

I dated this guy back in 2017, I broke up with him because he had been using me to cheat on his girlfriend. He came back at around 2018 and apologized, said he was sorry and that i was the one, but i wasnt ready for us yet, or rather, I wasnt sure I was the one like he said and plus the distance, we lived in two towns apart.

A year later, that is in 2019, he moved to my town, told me it was because he wanted us to try something out, at the time i was dating so i said no, and we cut ties. He came back in February this year,said he still wanted us to have a thing, we started hanging out. In March, he told me that he had this girl whom he had made pregnant, and was living in his house but there wasnt anything between them, that the pregnancy was a mistake but they decided to keep it either way

I took some time to think, the whole thing kind of started up my depression again at around June, he kept assuring me that i was still the one he wanted and so, i held faith and decided to give it a try.

The thing is, i am often unsure, especially because he hasnt told his baby mama about us, he said we should wait till the baby is born because the lady is suicidal and maybe if the whole affair stresses the mother, it may affect the baby. Which is quite understandable.

The baby is about to be born, i think they are in their 35th week

I am scared that he is not going to have time for me, and he said the lady had no place to go so it means even after giving birth, she still wont have a place to go.

Ive been playing the different scenarios in my head as to how this whole thing will turn out once the baby is born and all of them end up with me getting hurt.

He keeps assuring me he loves me and wants to be with me despite all the insecurities i keep displaying. I love him so much, or maybe i love the fight too, i dont really know.

What should i do, help please

Because this whole affair is affecting my mental health.

[JFishing2]

Honestly, from a male perspective, it sounds like he is “keeping you on the hook.” (How I Met Your Mother reference). Why would you want to date a guy who’s living with a girl who he’s had a sexual relationship?

It sounds to me like he thinks you’re easy to manipulate and he can keep you around while he does his own thing.

I don’t mean this post to come off as harsh at all, just my two cents.

[Operalady]

Oh wow what a situation! I couldn’t be in a relationship like that , too much going on! I am sorry I want to say things will be alright but I can’t. This pregnant woman is living with him and about to give birth and is suicidal. Do you want to be involved in such a situation? Nothing wrong with letting go with love and protecting yourself. Protect yourself it sounds like a mess!