How can I deal with never ending grief?

[janluvzcatz]

I'm new to this, but I've been a deep hole of depression since I lost my husband last October. He was and is my life. I have no children, no close friends, am considered a senior orphan. How can I possibly learn to live a new life?

[Agora1]

janluvzcatz, I am so sorry about your loss. I know words can't heal the pain the pain that

you are feeling but know that we care about you. I've never heard that expression

"senior orphan" but I can tell you we have many on this forum. Many who can relay to

your grief.

I'm glad to Welcome you to this Support Site. While you feel you may not be able to learn

to live a new life, you must for your wellbeing.

When my mother lost my dad suddenly, I was worried how she would cope. I always thought of her as being a very dependent person. To my surprise, in time was able to

pick up the pieces of her life. She moved from the house that both my sister and I grew

up in and moved to a beautiful condo looking over a lake. This was something that was

hers alone. She met other woman who had lost their spouse, she joined a church group,

a senior center, eventually went on day trips with the seniors etc.

It was hard for me to keep up with her scheduled activities. Of course this didn't happen

all at once, it took time, it took adjustment. Socializing brought out the best in her.

It's about finding the new you jan. That doesn't mean you will ever loose the love you have

for your husband, it will just help ease the pain a little bit.

You took the first step today in joining this support group. One step at a time, one day at a

time will help you to learn how to live a new life. We're here for you new friend xx