Do you believe in you

[Survivor4Ever]

I like this quote” The key to change.... is to let go of fear” Rosanne Cash

Question: Do you see yourself for who you really are?

For me personally, no I do not. We only see what we want to see. The worst, the flaws In ourselves. Therefore, we began to believe we are unworthy and of great things. If you have anxiety or depression or both that doesn’t make you a screwup or less than a person. It makes you a human being who is hurting who needs comfort, compassion, support. Well next time you look in the mirror be more gentle with yourself and have compassion for you are priceless!And do not believe how others perceive you that’s their issues and they don’t get it. I say two things. People underestimate and devalue people who live with depression and anxiety. And other people’s opinion of me is none of my business

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[Kels78]

Yes I absolutely agree. The problem with people with anxiety and depression like myself is that we have a critical inner monologue. Instead of telling ourselves nice things about ourselves we tell ourselves awful things. I guess that confident happy people tell themselves nice things? Its hard to do that though when you’re already in that mindset and have had bad experiences or maybe someone is trying to undermine you or belittle you right now as in my case at work. If we just reset our inner voice then I guess the depression and anxiety would get a lot better.

[Survivor4Ever in reply to Kels78]

Yes we tend to fall into that trap I can see that. Don’t allow them to belittle you. You are much better than that. Remember who you are. Have some compassion for yourself. Do you possess any of these positive qualities that you don’t believe but are truly true: honesty, loyalty, courageous, kind, strong, grateful, creative, patient, resilient, caring, trustworthy, thoughtful, caring, assertive, hardworking, versatile,reliable, practical, responsible, mature, motivated capable, perceptive, patient, thoughtful, independent, compassionate,friendly, clever, amusing, self reliant, charming, well spoken, soft spoken, persistent( has perseverance) ....etc.... Do you believe in you? Do you understand now? Does this help?

[Kels78 in reply to Survivor4Ever]

Thank you thats a great response and yes I know you’re right. The trouble with me is I have moments of strength where I think they’re not going to get the better of me I will rise above this and come out on top. Then something will happen at work and I’m right back down there feeling small and insignificant. I feel annoyed at myself sometimes for being this way. I’ve overcome worse than this in my life and have achieved things I’m proud of, I can’t win though if I react emotionally to their pettiness then I’m “unreasonable” and “unpredictable” but then the way they are its like poking a bear with a stick. I can’t get a handle on my emotions sometimes when they’re criticising me.

[Survivor4Ever in reply to Kels78]

Perhaps writing affirmations on index cards like I do .. Or journaling might help

[Kels78 in reply to Survivor4Ever]

Thank you yes I think I might give that a try. CBT worked well for me a few years ago, I felt really strong after having that but now I feel like I’ve unlearned or forgotten everything. I have been bullied most of my life, in school, stepdad, ex partners. I think thats the root of my anxiety where it comes from. My partner now is nothing like that but in work situations I am hyper sensitive to anything like that. Although I do know that the work thing isn’t in my head as others there (neutral colleagues) have confirmed my beliefs. Nobody else wants to get involved though and I wouldn’t expect them to, its something I need to tackle on my own.

[Survivor4Ever in reply to Kels78]

And I believe you will and now you just got to believe in you.

[Kels78 in reply to Survivor4Ever]

You’re right, I just need to find the strength within me to do it.