Date

[Butterfly20_]

So I’ve been asked on a date but I’m not in the right headspace to go, this guy is super nice but atm I’m feeling really down and I know I won’t enjoy it idk if I should let him down or just go and try it out but my anxiety has been on a all time high lately ughh

[Sunflowerxxxxxx]

Even if you were feeling fine its quite normal to feel unsure whether to go on a date or not, i think you should go and i say that because if you dont you will probably feel worse than you do now simply because you backed out, where as if you go you will feel good that you managed to go, and youve said hes really nice so why not give it s try it will get you out of yourself a bit you may well have a wonderful time and by the the end of the date your head may be full of lovely thoughts instead goid luck😊

[Butterfly20_ in reply to Sunflowerxxxxxx]

You’re right but idk... I just feel like my anxiety will be so bad that day

[Sunflowerxxxxxx in reply to Butterfly20_]

Maybe it will but you will have faced your fears and if you stuck at it it will get that tiny bit easier after a while till one day you will think to yourself wow i handled that really well and actually enjoyed myself and when that day comes you will know youve made it, look at it as a journey you cant get to your destination magically you have to travel the route begin your journey😊 and if theres a few bumps in the road dont let that put you off thats what we are here for we will put you back on the path😊

[Butterfly20_ in reply to Sunflowerxxxxxx]

Wow thank you so much! I really need to hear this,

I’m always talking myself out of things,

I definitely would have done tht with this.

I’ll definitely think about it instead of completely writing it off.

[Sunflowerxxxxxx in reply to Butterfly20_]

Thats lovely do let us know how you get on either way😊 and good luck😊

[Sid_Arthur in reply to Sunflowerxxxxxx]

Nice, . . . . . and useful !

Wish I was going on a date, . . . . with someone with a level-headed life outlook !

Sid

10 Aug 2020

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[EleanorRose]

Dates are nerve wracking at the best of times.

If this is someone you think you could like, I think you should go. I sometimes find it helps me to think about ‘future me’ ... you might feel super anxious on the day and maybe you won’t enjoy it but the headspace you’re in right now won’t last forever.

If he turns out to be a really nice guy, will ‘future you’ be grateful you did it? If you don’t go, you’ll always have that ‘what if’

I’ve just read and replied to your other post so I know this is a huge thing for you. You should be proud of yourself for even considering it. Do what you’d do if you weren’t afraid. You’ve got this!

Eleanor