Is this abuse?

[Dacor]

Hey. I am 20 and i live abroad with now my ex. (i moved when the pandemia started cause i lost my job and he offered to move in). Basically i'm here since the pandemic and due to quarantine and social axiety i wasn't able to make new friends.

Few days ago he told me he wanted to end it cause he wasn't feeling good with himself. (which i understand) but i was hurted.

He told me that it wasn't necessary for me to leave his home since i don't have much money. Also we where supposed to remain friends while i can leave to my country.

But now he is demanding oral sex or just having sex with me even if i don't want to. Once i told him that i didn't wanted to do it and he told me that he was working and paying the roof over our heads. (he said it as a joke). But since then i feel obligated to do it cause i feel that he is going to kick me out if i don't do it. Cause yesterday i denied and his whole mood changed and it feelt horrible.

I don't know what to do. This is causing me a lot of stress, cause I'm in a foreigner country with just the money to buy a flight to my country on September. And no job.

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Not trying to put my business out here, but I have been in a very similar situation. I'm curious to the answers you're going to get. Following this post. Unfortunately I don't have an answer for this one

[Starrlight]

That’s abuse it’s domestic abuse if he’s making you do things you don’t want to do. Don’t give into him. Don’t let him do things you are not comfortable with. He is sick.

[hypercat54]

This is rape pure and simple if he is forcing you have sex when you don't want too. You say you are living in Spain but you are a foreign national? In that case I would ring your country's embassy and ask for their help.

[Dacor in reply to hypercat54]

I've already done that. They put me on a wait list for a flight back to my country. But no more.

[hypercat54 in reply to Dacor]

Ring them back and tell them you are being raped and you fear for your life. Don't let them fob you off. Tell them you need to seek sanctuary at the embassy.

[kenster1]

go to the nearest embassy in the city or contact the foreign office for support phone the police and tell them you need urgent support and are fearing for your life anything just to be heard but I wouldn`t be staying with him any more days even if it means leaving all your possessions.