Hi SongAndSoul. I hope you are alright. I was wondering what are the three channels on YouTube re: narcissistic. All I get from people is man up and do something. But I have ptsd, was raised as a Christian, but feel unequally yoked with someone who just does not truly love me.
Thank you. I found so far for me the Dr. Todd Grande PTSD/C-PTSD is very informative for me. Just wanted to let you know. Appreciate the info. Hope you are feeling ok, even if you’re not, I understand. You’re ok, it’s just our feelings, our emotions that are bothersome. Often we label ourselves and think we are a bad person for feeling the way we do. For you to be so open and sharing shows to me that you are a good person and want to help others.
I’m very thankful. However so depressed. Too many losses, my career, my health, family tragedy and so on. Fell in love with an angel and she ran off with a devil. So I’m lost.
All these Communities you will find you can open up and be safe knowing that no one judges and always someone will relate
Well done in finding the strength to leave an abusive relationship despite your problems you have to deal with and if you did that then I have every faith the challenges that you may have to face you will succeed
You have all these lovely people to come and talk to and even if we don't have all the answers we are very good at listening
I congratulate you, what you did is very inspiring. I wish my mom did the same thing many years ago. But she had to bare it because she have no work no money and no house. And this was the worst thing to happen for me and my siblings. I'm 23 now I'm the youngest girl, and I grew up cooped up on myself not opened to the society, not having the ability of good judgment and having the desire for being in a relationship with older women...
This actually made me always underestimate myself, and I don't feel like I have any energy. My fights and bad life with my father made me loose my passion and energy, and made me hate men even more. I feel empty and powerless with no goal in my life. I need a real interaction with people around but I can't achieve it. But I'm sure some day everything will get better...
Welcome, your in the right place. We have a lot in common, I’m 65 years old from So California who also left an psychologically abusive marriage. It was 20 years ago, I left with my 3 kids that he was also verbally abusive to them too. We left with just clothes and we we’re homeless for several weeks. I Never looked Back. You can get though this, it’s going to take time. Look into counseling Write back 🙏😷
Already you have so many caring friends on Healthunlocked, well done for making the right move. We all care for each other here.
You have a long road ahead, just take you time, you must not rush, slowly feel your way. Rather like learning to swim or learning to ride a bike. It takes time, you must not give up.
The part of your story is about your two furries, they will always be there for you whatever time day or night you need a gentle cuddle. As you say they will never judge you.
Welcome, SongAndSoul. I think you are in the right place. Everyone I have replied to has had positive responses and I have had a lot of shared experiences when I post.
I am turning 50 this September. I am north of Chicago. I have been diagnosed with A&D since I was 20. I left a man who was self centered and did not believe the diagnosis.
I have some PTSD from being a teacher. My administrators were emotionally abusive. I gave them ever ounce of me to my job and those kids. No time was left for a relationship, so I have been alone since 1992. (Does that count as a born again virgin? HaHa)
At the end of March, a driver made an illegal left turn and I T-boned her. My car was totalled. I broke my sternum, both bones in the right arm, and my heel. I was isolated for 8 days in the hospital and 21 in nursing care. (No visitors due to C19).
It is ok to be alone.
It is great that you walked away from a bad relationship. I applaud you for that.
Hi there SongAndSoul, you sound very similar to me. Although I have not been an abusive relationship I do put alot of trust into people only to be left totally disillusioned and disappointed. I am the same age and I live in New Zealand. I have two married sons so I am it. I find myself very lonely now and looking for some real joy in my life. I hope that you and I can become friends. Take care and stay safe. X
Dogs and cats are amazing company. I know, I have both.
Most humans too. Perhaps they have more baggage than animals or find it harder than cats and dogs do to trust but I think if you can try to reach out you will find that we all have the need to belong and to be loved.
Congratulations and welcome to HealthUnlocked. Your story sounds so much like the life I lived for 32 years. I am 77 years old and have been living independently for 28 years. It is the hardest thing I have ever undertaken. Hard but so worth it. I don't remember the name of the movie about Tina Turner and her break from Ike, but there is a scene where she is getting ready for one of her performances, Ike shows up, looks at her and says something like, "You may be out of my life but you will never get me out of your head." So true!
I have been gone 28 years and the things you wrote about I also experienced. Although those traumas are still with me they don't drive my life as much they. I can for the most part recognize when my head is playing an old tape about me and my faults. I usually am able to ask myself why am treating myself like my abusers did. That usually will break the old tape playing in my head.
I hope you continue on your path of independence and succeed beyond your wildest dream. You will get there.
I very nearly left my wife for another woman who I discovered just in time, to be narcissistic, my congratulations are for having the strength to leave the relationship, I hope you find happiness from this day forward.
Good luck to you. Please take the time to look deep down and understand who you are -- what are your values, what are your goals, etc. It will help with moving forward. Reach out here for support. You are not alone. God bless you. You are in my prayers.
Hi. Just checking in to see how you are doing. I'm also just getting out of an emotionally abusive relationship, and I know if you truly loved the person you can go through terrible withdrawal. It was horrible for me and it took weeks to get to somewhat normal. Please take care of yourself and continue to reach out here for support. I've found a couple of online groups in addition to this one. It really helps to know you are not alone.
I remember the worst of the worst, like he stole from me, and then I can snap myself out of the longing to TEXT. I blocked him so he has no way of getting ahold of me.
It’s best this way because of the Trauma Bond I have with him.
I loved my Abuser. Nobody is a Monster.
However, we cannot allow ourselves to be abused in any way.
Life is too short already.
I am wishing the best for you.
If you feel comfortable, please message me the names of the other groups. 🌻
I relate completely. It took all the nerve I had to block her on my end. The other groups that may be helpful are for people who are actually addicted to being in a relationship no matter how toxic it is. If you feel that's something you can relate to, there is SLAAFWS.org, SLAANY.org, and loveaddictsanonymous.net. Some have a questionnaire you can take to ask about your relationship and if you "fit" the description. Not saying you do, but they have been very helpful to me. I was with a "love avoidant" while I'm a "love addict." I didn't know those terms existed three weeks ago but they fit my ex and me to a tee. It gave me background to start letting go of her and knocking her off the pedestal I put her on.
Hi Bev! Thank you for the warm welcome and encouragement.
Curious: What is Dodgy Lung buddies? 😁
I know what you are going through, I believe. I have been going through a world wind relationship with myself for years. I have been in counseling for about 8 months now with a Fantastic Counselor. I am finding out lots about myself and it has been a true joy. I also live in Southern California. If you would like to have a friend who is real, I would love that also. I would like for us to get to know each other and maybe hangout... I could sure use a good friend.. Send me a message if you would like. I am 60 btw ♥
My Councilor advises me . It is my choice of what I want to do... He can't give me anything but direction... He is pro marriage.. And thanks to his direction we are doing very well.... Hope this helps...
I’m still trying to build the courage to leave a bad situation. Emotional abuse. My day dreams of a new life bring tears every day. I know in order to make change I need to stop crying and find courage. But I’m struggling to find my strength
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