Introduction

[SB-BB]

Hi I'm new and I think I have anxiety it maybe because of my gender and sexuality I hope I can get some help and advice

[Stilltrying_]

Hi and welcome. Are you LGBTQ? How can we support you? x

[SB-BB in reply to Stilltrying_]

Yes I'm Panoramic Asexual but I'm also non binary. Could you help im anxious about telling my parents im non-binary I don't know to to explain the difference between it and being trans.

[fauxartist]

Welcome SB-BB and I'm glad you’re here sharing about your anxiety about talking to your parents. I applaud your courage wanting to come out to your parents as it’s often risky and can be a little bit of an un-known to move forward with, wanting to be out and open in life. And it’s good to weigh in all the information to make a choice of what would work best for you on how to talk to them.

From what I understand non-binary can be sort of open ended as to taking whatever path you feel comfortable with...non gender specific,....please feel free to correct me as I don't know you, I do know that this can be a very diverse life style choice. I think if you have, if I may use this term for now, been pretty much androgynous growing up, that your parents might already be aware of your life style choice....and if you have an open relationship with them, they should be able to understand if you explain to them where you’re coming from and what your happy with. If not, you may want to try and work out a group counselling session where you and your parents could be in a therapist supervised session where the therapist could also have input for your parents if they have any questions for better understanding of Gray asexuality, which is considered the gray area between asexuality and sexuality, in which a person may only experience sexual attraction on occasion.

[SB-BB in reply to fauxartist]

I think my parents may get confused and may think I'm trying to tell them I'm trans when I'm not.

[fauxartist in reply to SB-BB]

That's maybe why it's sometimes a better environment with a counsellor or therapist who understands the issues you want to be able to discuss with your parents and then if they have any questions your therapist could intervene. I do believe that if they love you...they will accept you as you are already......You could also try and write this all down in a letter, and then if they have any questions you could help them understand the differences between being trans and Panoramic Asexual and also non binary. I don't know if you seen this show called 'Billions' but there is a main character in the show: Taylor, who is a brilliant, young gender non-binary intern at Axe Capital whom Bobby spots and mines for 'their' outside-the-box way of thinking. At any given time, Taylor is usually the smartest person in the room.

This actor in real life is Asia Kate Dillon. Dillon identifies as non-binary and uses singular they pronouns.

[SB-BB in reply to fauxartist]

Thanks

[Stilltrying_]

It can be difficult when you don't fit the "usual" mould, but be proud of who you are. I think if you just explain how faux has suggested that is a good idea. Sending hugs and hoping all goes well for you xxx

[SB-BB in reply to Stilltrying_]

Thanks

[MrZee]

I myself am Gay and have been out for years. A long time ago I stressed as to how am I going to tell my family, friends, etc.

I sought help from a Gay friendly therapist who told me to just take it slow. Find support first before letting family know.

I found (what it was called at that time, 1981) a Gay center and got into a GLBT support group. I knew I had a safe place to go to if my family freaked out.

It ended up my family was a tad shocked but not surprised. They all came around. And to this day it’s no big deal for them.

In your case, GLBT centers now have support for the whole sexual spectrum. Perhaps if there is one in your area, seek support if you’d like to.

Remember regardless of our sexualities, we’re all equal human beings.

Best,

MZ

[SB-BB]

Thanks I'll be sure to look