Giving into tears

[Molly85]

I hate to cry, but sometimes it feel slike I need that release.

I am feeling very isolated and alone. I tried to reach out to my kids, and get responses like this:

i’m not required to do anything i’m the child, it’s not my responsibility to make u feel better. if u want to make plans then make them but u cannot expect me to be at ur beckon call. i don’t feel comfortable seeing you

And this:

i’m not rude i’m being honest. i’m a teenager my first priority is not hanging out with my mother but my friends.

This is from my 15 year old daughter. My kids call me by my first name, not "Mom". They are very empowered since my husband never punished them and gave them all the control from an early age. I tried to discipline, but was the only one. It got harder and harder. I was the housecleaner, taxi driver, and ATM. I feel like I failed as a parent. I reach out to them, offer to see them, do whatever - and I get responses like that. I know I need to move on, but it hurts nonetheless. Especially since I cam from an abusive home and vowed to not be that way with my own kids - I think the pendulum has swung too far to the other side.

Ironically, my 15 year old needs me to take her for her driver's permit and to pay for it. She will "see" me for that.

[onebreath]

I can’t imagine how hard that must be for you. It hurts when you don’t feel supported. Have you tried having an open and honest conversation with your family? I am new here and glad we have found this place for support together. I wish you the best.

[Molly85 in reply to onebreath]

Thank you - I wish I could talk to them. They laugh at me and think I am crazy. They refuse to do anything to make our relationships better. Believe me, I have tried. I go to counseling so I am trying to get better

[onebreath in reply to Molly85]

It sounds like you are on the right path, therapy can be a wonderful thing if you find a good therapist (which can be frustrating since sometimes it’s also like talking to another moody teenager lol). I’ve been walking a lot lately and it has helped a lot.

[pam4him]

So sorry for the difficult time. Rejection of any kind can hurt so much, and perhaps doubly so when it's your kids. Are you in counseling? That could help you resolve some of the childhood trauma. I'm not sure you can make them spend time with you, but keep trying. Put on a brave face, fake smile if you must, maybe put on a movie that they have mentioned liking, make some popcorn and let them join you. There's just something about popcorn and a good movie. Prayers for wisdom and guidance.

[Ramon123]

I am so sorry you are going through this right now. It sounds so incredibly hurtful for you. I wish I could do something to make it feel better. I hope your daughter is just being at a difficult age and outgrows this and realizes how much you mean to her. I know I regret a lot of the things that I said to my parents when I was a teenager and sometimes it's hard to break through the stubbornness and teenage brain. I wish you all the best of luck with this. Please reach out to us again when you need support.

[Hidden]

This is really heartbreaking to hear about your life. Men should not abuse their spouse. Teenagers are teenagers. They will not stop at anything to get their way. They will eventually grow up and see what they've done. I've seen this happen. I pray that you will overcome this and be a stronger woman. Time will heal all wounds.