Making Decisions

[CalicoPurpl90]

I have an extremely hard time making decisions about pretty much anything. Even the smallest of decisions such as deciding what to wear can give me anxiety as I pull multiple shirts out of my closet and attempt to select one. Does anyone else struggle with this problem? What do you find that helps? I have another appointment with my new therapist on Wednesday, so I might bring this up with him.

[CaityCat]

I also have a hard time making decisions. Less about clothes, more about big decisions—where to go to college, etc. Find people that you trust and ask their opinion. Even if they don’t agree with you, it may help enlighten you to what you actually want to do. For example, my best friend advised me to go to a in-state school and I was going to do it, but the more I thought about it and tried to come to peace with the decision, I realized that I actually wanted to go to a different college out of state.

Having a hard time making small decisions is most likely about lack of confidence—you aren’t sure if what decision you are making is the right one, even if minuscule, so you second-guess yourself. I totally get it...Someone told me something that might help you— “Whatever decision you make, it was right for you in that moment”. Take comfort that no matter how important the decision and no matter how it will work out, most decisions aren’t life changing and won’t matter in 10 years. Will the shirt you wear today make a difference in a week? A month? A year? Things that seem big now often are insignificant later.

[CalicoPurpl90 in reply to CaityCat]

Thanks CaityCat. I appreciate your response. My indecisiveness stems from pretty much all decisions, both small and big. Big decisions such as where to go to college, applying to join the navy, moving in with family in a different state, etc. I have a harder time with as I typically like to make the best, most informed decision that I can make for myself.Decisions like this WILL make a difference in a month and years down the road. These decisions might not necessarily be life changing however. Part of my indecisiveness comes from a lack of confidence, but it also comes from being a perfectionist. I like to know what is going to happen and I don't like uncertainty. I think a lot of people would probably attest to that. I am able to recognize this in myself and find that this is simply something that I need to work on.

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Therapy can help. I had to nurture myself and that helps the most. Take your meds, drink water, and sleep. You don't have to worry about anything else for awhile. That's what my professional therapist told me to do. It helped immensely ❤️ hope that helps.

Sincerely

Andrea

[CHPA]

I've seen this in people I've known suffering from anxiety and depression so don't think you are along. A good therapist can probably offer some suggestions on cooping mechanisms. Perhaps the right medication would help calm the anxiety which would help with the decision process. And sometimes just let yourself be you and don't try quite so hard.