Am I the Only One?

[diamond889]

I don't know if it's just me, but I find that while being in quartine all my friends seem really distant. I struggle with an eating disorder and anxiety. I'm that friend that always focuses on others but not enough on me, but I just sometimes want my friends to ask how am I instead of me always checking up on them.

[B4andafter]

You are not alone regarding friends being distant; I'm in the same boat. Many of your friends may be dealing with their own challenges as a result of this quarantine, (losing employment, worrying about finances, caring for children at home) so their minds are pre-occupied. However, if you are always the one reaching out regardless of the situation, that could set their expectations that you'll continue to do so. You could try not being the first to reach out and see what happens. Then you'll find out who truly cares enough to contact you first.

[Srb3147]

This is a hard time for everyone, people are looking inward and trying hard to maintain their own mental health. Often times that does not leave a lot for others. I get my energy from other people, so the social distancing has even been hard for me. Now is when you really need to focus on yourself. Take walks, give yourself a lot of positive affirmations. Drown your mind with positive things, words, books, songs, movies. Call the elderly, or children. They are feeling lonely too. Reach out to friends, yes, but being your own best friends is important too!

[GirlBawse]

You are not alone. It can be challenging learning how to put yourself first. I struggle with this too. I love the quote, you can't pour from an empty cup. You deserve people to be there and reach out to you also. Be kind to yourself.