My mom called the cops on me

[Ubud2021]

I think I’m going to jail.

Cool

[zperry4]

Hey everything alright?

[PT81]

I hope you’re ok. Stay safe.

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Oh no. Let us know how you are.

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What has happened, why the Police

BOB

[Starrlight]

Let us know how you are doing?

[Ubud2021]

Hey guys... I’m not in jail... the cops found no reason to take me to jail because I did not do anything.

Me and my mom got in a big fight -AGAIN! (Surprise...) and she started screaming in my face like literally not even one inch away from my face. And pulled back a little then pointed her finger at me, and very firmly pressed my upper lip while she was screaming at me. I pushed her back away from me, and told her not to scream in my face or ever touch me again. She gripped my arms very hard, and got extremely close to my face again, started screaming then pushed me, very hard. As I have a lot of physical health issues going on, I am incredibly weak. My push to her was like a nudge. But her push blew me back. She definitely has a lot more strength than I do, as well as my point was to just get her out of my face.

She started throwing all my things outside and telling me to leave. (Throwing glass and breakables as well) But when she re parked my car, she left the light on and my car to my battery died. So I asked her how can I leave when my battery is dead? This made her more angry. She called her wife, Connell, to tell her the situation, as Connell was driving down, my mom came up to me and said that I “really need to spend a night in jail to REALLY think things over” ... as I heard her call the cops, she stated “my daughter was trying to extremely hurt me!” -which, what?? No. I was not.

Me and Connell have NEVER gotten along. I’ve known her since the 1st grade, and she didn’t think me and my mom should spend any time together. That only her (Connell) and my mom should. I never got much attention from my mom due to Connell being so controlling. Connell started yelling that I “take over everyone’s houses as I please,” as I have my own apartment, and kind of my own room “back at home” that I’ve been staying in. And that I “control everyone’s families” ... uhh, this is MY family??? Her words were not logical. Also, she basically told me to go kill myself as everyone would be better off...

The cops came, I told officer #1 what had happened, then, I had to tell officer #2, by this time I was having a severe panic attack and crying. Some how officer #3 appeared, but I don’t remember when, as I was so panicky...

My mom demanded I go into the hospital since the jail wouldn’t take me. My mom believes I’ve done major wrong by being upset with not being able to stay at my apartment. So she wants to get rid of me, and put me in a situation where I can “think.” The officer was pretty rude, and told me basically I had to go, but yet she couldn’t force me... I chose not to go.

As I’m now back at my apartment alone, being shunned from my family and never welcome again.

I have agoraphobia so I cannot go out to buy food, there is none here. And my mother has my food assistance money card as well, so I wouldn’t even have a way to buy food. My suicidal thoughts have been just sticking around. Not saying I am going to act on them, but it’s like this though wants to make itself known, almost as if it’s like a little devil on my shoulder....

I have no pain medication here to help with my daily pain. And I’m just miserable. My next appointment with my counselor is NEXT MONDAY. She was booked out so long. I’m at a loss.

[mvillarreal in reply to Ubud2021]

Wow. I'm terribly sorry to hear your mom is treating you so poorly and, frankly, abusively. My question is concerned with why, when you told the police what happened, they didn't arrest HER. She was clearly being both verbally and physically violent, and you were just making a point that she needed to back off. Have you thought about filing a police report yourself? This sounds like a dangerous situation, and it sounds like your mom seriously needs help!

[Ubud2021 in reply to mvillarreal]

They asked me if I had any bruises, and if I did, they would take her in.. at the time I did not. As my arms today are very tender, I do have a small bruise in my tattoo. It’s slightly discolored. But from a cops perspective, I think they would just probably say it’s just may tattoo...

My family has completely shunned me. My mom sent a text late last night saying how much she loves me and sorry it had to come to this.... I replied her goal was to throw me in jail.

As my mom used to work in the mental health field, she sees herself as perfect with no issues, and does not have any dysfunctional thinking patterns, but she does.

I’m so lost right now. I’m alone. I’m at my apartment with no food. Or money. My mom has my food assistance money card, and I have agoraphobia, so I cannot go into the grocery store...

I have been experiencing multiple depersonalizations... I feel like I can do anything and there would be no consequence as this is all a dream. Maybe it is. I’m physically unwell. I have no pain relief medication here, and I’m so much pain and physical distress I can’t function. I feel like my chest is being crushed. I feel like I’m going to vomit any time now.

I’m truly alone.

[mvillarreal in reply to Ubud2021]

Oh no! So your mom will have nothing to do with you now?

[Ubud2021 in reply to mvillarreal]

That’s correct.

[mvillarreal in reply to Ubud2021]

I'm sorry! That's heartbreaking! Are you doing okay with all of this?

[Ubud2021 in reply to mvillarreal]

Ya know, I’ve been having a very hard time... she’s been accusing me of all this stuff, and is just too toxic. It breaks my heart. She blocked my bank account, so I had to make a new one. And I guess she will soon be shutting off my phone service. I have no money. I am unable to work. I have no support other than my therapists... it’s so hard to go through at the lowest point in my life... but... something has got to work out. I don’t know what or when. But I guess only time will tell.

[mvillarreal in reply to Ubud2021]

Has she been in contact with you since that conversation, or is she totally cutting you off? And you're right, I really hope that something will work out and that you will come out of this a stronger person because of it. Stay strong!

[HopeforJustice]

What happened? How are you doing today?

[Ubud2021 in reply to HopeforJustice]

Hi there. I’m ... meh, right now.

I just feel... hopeless at the moment.

My moods are everywhere right now. This morning I felt like I CAN do this on my own. Now, I just feel like what’s the point. What’s the point of being here, when the only people who matter to me, don’t want me in their lives at all?

Idk. My moods have just been up and down.