Have one friend but she is moving

[tonalchemy]

I am alone in Caldwell, ID but I made one friend what was a great solace to me. She is moving soon, so I will be left with no friends. People are much behind the times here in Idaho and it is very difficult for me to find even friend potentials. There are one or two people in my apartment complex with whom I think I could be friends, but I am terrible at establishing friendships.

Thank you for reading this and may you be Happy, Healthy, and may you find Inner Peace.

[Agora1]

You know tonalchemy, I've always believed that you could be in the middle of the

desert and yet when the time is right you will find that person you were hoping for.

Whether it's romantically or friendship. It happens when you least expect it. xx

Stay safe, stay well my friend

[tonalchemy in reply to Agora1]

Thank you so much for your reply. I'm glad it's not a romantic attachment otherwise I'd be even more of a basket case. All the best to you. ~ Daniel

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I understand what you're saying. Though, I am in a "progressive" large East Coast city and still don't have very many friends here .. this is a lonely time even before the virus hit I remember messaging someone on a dating site and we both said it was lonely times (even though it might not be acceptable to say so to someone who you're trying to "woo"). Sometimes I have to turn around my thinking, and start saying I'm going to smile at every person I see and talk to them earnestly and listen to them and make them LIKE me. I don't have to like them, however, I can certainly try to leave every single person who I encounter smiling. That way, in the end, maybe I will have a friend or close acquaintance when I didn't that person would become one. I also read this on Quora the other day -- listed within the top ten life lessons: "You may have over 10 people who you consider as friends but only 1 or 2 will be there for you during your hard times. Be even thankful if you have 1." I"m always suspicious of people who call everyone and anyone (exes, people on FaceBook, people they never talk to) their friends... cherish those who you have. Try (I am not very good at this myself and forced myself to send texts to people currently in my life expressing such) gratitude and expressing it -- even just on paper, for who you have and who you have and can become. Good luck, and keep writing here as long as it helps you (in whatever way).

[SpeakUp5694]

Hi there,

Thank you for sharing your story. I have been through this same situation numerous times with friends (even though some I have lost touch with due to personality changes). What I found helpful at a time like this was joining a group in the community or through my school and I was able to communicate with people better and establish friendships. You mention that you are not great at friendships. May I ask what makes you feel and think this? I myself feel the same as I feel like it is hard to find people to associate with without feeling like you are putting more effort in the friendship (whatever the status may be between the two) than the other.

What I would suggest is reaching out to the two people you mentioned that live near by and seeing what hangout means to them. In doing this find out more about them and see if you three can come up with something to do together and see how things play out.

From what I read I am not sure if you are currently in contact with the friend who moved, but if not I would find a way to reach out. If you are already in contact what I found helpful for me when some of my close friends moved (I am not a fan of social media myself, but I did use if for a short while because I was in a situation like yours) is I got their address from them and sent letters to them filling them in on the usual stuff and sent them pictures. I am not sure if you are much of a writer, but I also found it fun and engaging to send fun games to each other and the game would continue for a few months at a time. Last you could create a facebook page or some other form of communication with the help of the internet and do your best to sent aside time to chat.

I am not export in others situations as I can only speak of my experience and yours combined to find where they match or differ. But friends come and go. But true friends are the friends who make the biggest effort to stay in your life no matter what happens between you.

I hope you find a way to contact your friend who moved!