How do you stop looking for love in the wrong places, with the wrong people, in the wrong way?

[Sarah2468jones]

Look I am being honest becase no one here knows me which makes it easier than someone I know. I am usually really closed of and I guess it's because of my past. My mother is a meth addict along with many other drugs and my biological father that I just found out about is in prision for life. I guess you could say I have a void in my life and I fill it the wrong ways.I don't want pitty, Quite frankly the furthest from it, sympathising and feeling sorry for someone is two diffrent things and I can't take people looking at me like I am made of glass or going to shatter on impact. It makes me feel like I actually might.

[Tishfish]

I feel ya Sarah.

[Sarah2468jones in reply to Tishfish]

Thank you

[Agora1]

Hi Sarah, now I understand your first post better in that you wear your

depression almost like a shield of armor to protect you. With emotional

pain, many do put up that wall around them, afraid to let people in. It becomes

difficult to let others in for fear you will be hurt. However, you don't have to

be fragile, you are not made of glass. Sometimes, life's experiences can make us

stronger and wiser. I will agree that you've been dealt a difficult hand in life. In

it's own way, it may be allowing you to look for love in the wrong way.

It's important that we surround ourselves with positive people who are trust

worthy. You do not have to follow the path that your parents took. Each of us

has choices in our lives. Let that new path start with you. Love isn't about a need

but a feeling that can happen when you least expect it. I think once you realize who

you were meant to be, the rest will happen automatically in time.

Thank you for opening up to us. I think this will help you take that first safe step forward.

Not everyone is evil and out to hurt you. Love yourself first, respect the person you are

and love will find you. xx

[Downandout123 in reply to Agora1]

Now that's a beautiful post!! 😊

[Sarah2468jones in reply to Agora1]

Thank you so much I am in tears

[Hidden in reply to Agora1]

Beautiful, wise and so well articulated.