Just had a breakup, need help coping

[fantasticamy]

Hello everyone, I recently had a breakup and I thought I would be fine. I mean, I knew breaking up was a healthier option for me, because my partner was just not what I was looking for. But now, I can't stop thinking about it, especially how the breakup went, as it was a fight with my partner saying some pretty harsh and false things to me. I know that I shouldn't let it get to me, but I can't seem to get over it regardless. I don't want to fall into a pit of depression, but I feel that I will. I try to distract myself from negative thoughts as well, but I just can't. I don't know what to do. Any advice?

[explorerPHX]

i wish i had some magic words of advice i could give you that would help. i can't say that i've ever been in the same situation you are describing, but i struggle with saying harsh and false things to myself and with negative thoughts too. i can imagine that when someone we care/cared about says some pretty harsh and false things, especially in a fight, it can be really hurtful and painful. but i think you have an understanding that will help - that it was a healthier option for you. you know that in the long run, it was the better self-care action to take. try to talk yourself through what you are thinking, challenging what is false, reinforcing what you know deep down to be true. you are definitely in the right place, you are certainly not alone here.

[skidrew]

I had a break up after 23 years. Yeah it’s awful but I rebounded ok until 16 months after the break I got my heart broken after a 2 month summer relationship. I let that and the divorce proceedings now get me really depressed. I should have just kept moving forward.

[allmentalhealth]

Hey there! This post on instagram might be helpful to you: instagram.com/p/B72BjprA4FU/ It's all about ruminating after a breakup and how to distract yourself in healthy ways.