Happily Watching Them Drift Away...

[Mschuste725]

Hey,

This post is very personal, so if you don’t want to hear venting, please move on.

I saw my therapist yesterday, and we talked about some extremely important points as to why I’m so unhappy. You see, after talking with her, I realized Why I was so connected to Spinel and Teen Steven from Steven Universe, which I recently got into. Because almost all my past friends are/were drifting away, and I wanted to hold onto the past. Everyone is moving forward, but I’m only looking backwards because I feel so much regret and hurt from my friends moving on without me. I’m not pinning any blame on anyone, nor myself. Yes, there were misunderstandings, there were plenty. But none of these misunderstandings were anyone’s fault. I just wanted to finish this by saying that I’m not exactly happy of the situation that I was put in, because like the song, I was happily watching them drift away without even realizing. I just hope one day I can turn to look to the future and smile

[goldielox]

I have had some friends and family move away very recently. Also, I had to put down a pet this past year. It has been difficult to manage. I am not feeling regret, I just miss them. All of them.

However this new year I have made some new friends. With these new friends, they help gradually fill the void of loss.

Reach out and meet some new people. Just like your old friends, new people want to know you. You are worthy.

[MrZee]

Dear Mschuste725,

I’m quite touched by your post and really hear you. I don’t think you’re venting. You’re grieving the loss of some friends.

I’ll tell you, friendships can be blissful. And on the other hand, they can pull the rug out from under us... which hurts.

25 years ago I had a friend that I held very very dear. She and I were good buddies. And we were very close. Then one night I gave her a phone call to chat and she told me, “I can no longer be your friend.” I was shocked and kindly asked her why. All she said was, “My therapist agrees with me. I’ve got something in my oven and I have to go.” And she hung up. I was so stunned... so hurt. So angered. And so dumbfounded. What’s most disconcerting is we never got to have any closure. I know that friendships can end, but it’s best with mutual reason and healthy closure.

But I’ve learned when a friendship ends eventually a new one begins. Over the years I’ve made wonderful friends. I don’t have many. But the friends that I do have I cherish. There’s no guarantees they’ll last. So I’ll enjoy them while they’re here.

Go ahead. Mourn the loss of your friends. That’s normal. Yet I’m optimistic with the awareness and your growth in therapy that new friends will come along for you too. And when they do, they’ll even be better than the previous ones.

All my best,

MZ ❤️

[hypercat54]

Hi when I moved to my current area I was lucky enough to make a great group of friends and for many years we got together a lot. Then one by one they slowly drifted away and moved on to different things in life. I desperately tried to hang on but eventually I had to accept it.

Now I have made other friends which is great. x

[LadyZen]

Sometimes the past and the future gives me a lot of anxiety. When that happens, I just focus on today.