Death sucks

[brie1010]

i have been having a hard a long time this week and last week my grandpal just passed away with no warning it really sucks i know that he is gone but it really doesn't feel like it right now but i know that he will always be with me all the time. it just sucks not having him here.

[Agora1]

brie, I'm so sorry about your grandfather. When we love somebody, they are

always in our hearts. xx

[brie1010 in reply to Agora1]

yes thank you so much

[Hidden in reply to Agora1]

Yes for sure. Take comfort in knowing they are with us. When I lost my brother in a motorcycle accident he died on impact with our cousin day after Thanksgiving, 1992, and exactly 2 most later my grandpa. I read a very helpful book called "How to Survive the Loss of a Love"..an unbelievable book that explained that what I was feeling was entirely normal...I'd be fine one minute and the next packed a powerful punch..they called it "waves"..I can't even begin to describe what this was like. I was empty wondering how I was going to get through life without him..to me it was impossible..but now years later I'm still here..of course he's on my mind everyday and on certain days I find it more difficult. I learned that as time passes, more pleasant memories kept surfacing and the shocking thoughts were lessoning...there's no time limit on grief.. everyone grieves differently and in there own unique way and still going through the stages, which will be there forever...our beloved losses will always be in our hearts. You'll find your peace with it at your own time. Some others pissed me off 😠 by saying things like..",your dad didn't cry at the wake". Okay so what does that mean..he and my mom who sobbed didn't love him? Honestly, he was holding it together for the families sake..he had to. That's my Italian culture.

Honestly, some things that people will say to you will be total stupidity and lack of thought before opening ones mouth. Walk away..they are stupid stupid people who just don't know what to say..(I'm sorry for your loss! Hello!!).

You are lucky ❤️🙏 to have had a grandpa to love❤️, some don't. Grandpa's are very special...

At some point, after about a year if isolating and thankful my friends were there, I was ready to channel my activity to a creative use..I started a scrapbook of memories, I have a box that is labeled with my brother's name where I've collected pieces of him..photos..shirts I took to wear as night shirts... pennies I found on his dresser, etc..I visit his gravesite where my grandparents are as well..and I talk outloud to him. I wrote a letter and buried it behind his gravestone because I was not able to say goodbye. So you will find a way to channel to what I call it Nervous Energy..

do what you need to do for yourself. You're in my prayers 🙏. My blessings.

[Hidden]

I'm sorry. 🤗

[brie1010 in reply to Hidden]

thank you

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry about your grandpa's sudden passing. I was close to my grandpa too when he passed although it was expected. Losing someone sudden and I can relate to you in my brother who passed suddenly in a motorcycle accident. It's such a shock and 2 most later my grandpa passed. Talk to people who are close to you, let yourself feel sad and don't hurry grief. Everyone grieves in their own way.

I wrote letters and buried them beside the grave, made collages, soon tragic thoughts were slowly replaced with happy memories. You're lucky you had a wonderful grandpa and there are so many ways to honor his memory and deal with your grief as mentioned above. I also believe they are looking down on me from heaven as I'm sure your grandpa is too. Take it slow, grief comes in waves, you'll find you're having a good day then you'll feel kind of like a wave of sudden intense sadness ..also meditation I find works wonders when you're ready. Right now focus on your feelings and expressing them. It's completely normal to feel a lot of different feelings. I also took some shirts from my brother's closet and wrap myself up in them sometime. Your grandpa loved you very much and is looking down on you. I'm here for you

God bless you sweety❤️🙏🤗

[brie1010 in reply to Hidden]

aw thank you so much that really helped

[Hidden]

Honey it always sucks when someone you love so much dies. I was in my 30s when my grandmother died at 101. The night before I sang in her ear Greek songs she taught me, I had a feeling she was going to die. The next morning the call came she did. She not only was a wonderful, fun grandmother, she also was my only protector from abuse from her daughter my mother. I thought oh god I wished she could of last even longer, I cried. But then when I walked into the wake, I saw her not living anymore, I just bust into tears. What I do is remember the love she showed me,and think of all the wonderful times. I know it was a shock for you. But remember for his sake he didn’t have to know himself he was dying, or suffer, that’s what we have to hope for for them. So sorry for your loss❤️

[brie1010]

thank you so much