I’m always scared about disappointing my family. Even when it comes to my love life. It seems to affect every aspect of my life. That fear of disappointing them. And what people will say.
Even with my previous love interest, they didn’t like him but I loved him. Should I let them influence who I choose to spend the rest of my life with? No ones perfect I know but they always seem to have an opinion and I always let it play on my mind. It really bothers me.
I think it’s normal to want your family to approve of your achievements and choices. But I think it’s also important to establish boundaries and not do things because you don’t want th them to disapprove. If your family loves you, they will accept all of you. There will certainly be friction and conflict, but I think that your fear of rejection is likely much more than their disagreements.
As for your partner, you spend the most time with them. Your family doesn’t know them like you do. I think talking about what they’re unhappy about may be helpful if they can? And find out what exactly they don’t like?
In my opinion, you are the one who's going to be with that person you love and not them. It's your choice and your feelings after all. As long as you know that person truly cares for you and is good to you. There's not reason not to follow your heart.
Living with other people's expectations only causes emotional distress. I believe we should worry about disappointing our own self that worry so much about disappointing other people instead. 
Hi, I understand what you are going through. You should never let anyone even your family force your relationships. You will know if they are the one person for you and with all of the anxiety, you can tell them and hopefully keep the promise as to listening to their concerns. Sometimes family may know best but you are different then anyone else. Your not alone, and reach out anytime.
What to Choose??
Till when?
I'm tired beyond belief and get no enjoyment of life.
Living without my children
I feel like shit. 
