Messed up

[Nefeteri]

I've posted here once before,I'm so messed up right now.my mom has triple negative breast cancer and have been way more anxious cause of that.having panic attacks every day.how am I going to be strong for my mom if I'm so shitty?just pretending I'm good for now.

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That's awful! That's tough news to get. You're doing the right thing by asking for help here. Don't be afraid to ask for help elsewhere as well. All for others to bring your meals, so you can be fully present with your mom. Or, ask for a housekeeper or someone to help with laundry, for the same purpose. Right now, you need to prioritize yourself. Be gentle with yourself and be present for your mom.

[Rick1on1]

Wishing strength during this time!

[fauxartist]

Even if you have to fake it.....do it.....don't make this about your anxiety and stress around her....it makes it so much harder for her and stress just exacerbates her health issues. Be clam and supportive, get out of your own head and try and think of what things you can do for her to make her life easier. This is a terrible time for you, but she is the one with the cancer, so make this about her. Then be sure and get help for yourself to be able to express your feelings of fear, and grief, and sadness....it's important.

[SuZQ154]

You are going through a very stressful situation. So glad you are posting. Your mom obviously means a lot to you and that is very admirable. Helping her might begin with helping yourself stay healthy. Asking for help is the first step!!

What have you considered for your next "step"? Have you considered counseling? It would give you a place to vent, cry, and examine your situation and hopefully develop some new strategies to deal with your emotions, past, and current situation. Christian counseling was very helpful for me in the past. Would you consider that?

Hope this helps and praying for you today!

[Shutterbug65]

I’m not good at giving advice but just be there for her. Your mom will know. Strength is measured in so many different ways and each one of us has a unique way of showing love and compassion. We are all different. And since she’s your mom she knows you best, and understands more than anybody how difficult this time is for you.

Be easy on yourself.