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I just wish this funk im in would go away. Im planning our wedding and as it gets closer Im getting so overwhelmed. Today we took a positive step and then as Im stressed over getting invitations ready we have a set back with our DJ. Normal wedding process right? Its been one thing after another. 1 step foward and then we get a set back. 3 months to go.

My anxiety is really making me feel defeated. Im uncomfortable in most social settings and Im not the best at managing stress.

I was doing so well learning to cope with positive self talk and learning to let go, and go with the flow. Now panick is setting in. Im not sleeping well because Im so worked up. I feel very uncapable. And sad. I just want to get out of this funk. Im ruining a time most people dream of. But this has become something I feel Im in way over my head. Maybe Ill feel better tomorrow. I really hope so.

Im all over the place... because its the middle of the night. Apoligies to whoever takes time to read all of my nonsense.. lol.

😦😥

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Kkimm

Hi Sunshine

I think it is very normal to feel like this while planning your wedding. Weddings have so much importance in our lives that we build them up so much and hence anxiety as a result.

Things will sort themselves out. Try to not build it up too much. Get enough sleep if you can by following a good bedtime routine. Wind down with no screens at least an hour before bedtime, relaxing bath etc.

Hope you do feel better in the morning.

Best wishes

Kim

Sweetheart thats normal I felt that way planning my wedding. Planning is stressful and everyone wants it a tiny bit their way I learned. Deep breaths and you got this.

It will all work out just breathe :) I'm here for you.

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dom410

Planning a wedding, a major life change is something people say is the time of their life. In truth it's hell! Lol. The good news is I and my wife were there where you are 16 years ago. To this day we still laugh at the lunacy we went through for 12 hours of our special wedding day.

Try to remember its only a day and you'll have the rest of your life to be married. Take a deep breath and know that you can only do so much and in the end it will all work out.

Congrats on your future wedding

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Sunshine425 in reply to dom410

Love this reply!

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Mrspjsmom

Weddings are stressful for everyone. I concentrated on the things that were really important to me and delegated the details that weren't. Is there someone you could ask to help? Many of the little details cause the most stress. In the end you will be a beautiful bride and have someone at your side.

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Sunshine425 in reply to Mrspjsmom

Great advice! Thank you. You are so sweet😊

I agree that it is hell. I planned and did everything for my wedding and social situations are the worst for me. There are always some things that will go wrong. That's just life. When I was standing at the end of the isle, ready to make my entrance, my sister whose one job was to turn on the music, screwed it up. It was completely silent, and my heart was pounding and instead of, God Blessed the Broken Road, the loudest version of the Seasame Street theme song started playing. One of her young kids had changed the CD!! 😣😣😣🎶🎶 Now, 14 years later, we laugh. Who cares or really remembers except us? Most people won't even know if something you planned was a little off anyway. Just relax and don't stress too much or let yourself get overwhelmed and definitely not get the two of you arguing. You will get through this.

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🤣🤣 oh my... lol.

Thank you melhall! I feel like its pointless to picture, perfect. I get to marry my best friend and that is all that I want. Im focusing on the parts that bring me joy.

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