What do I do?

[Evietyler01]

Why do I feel such pain in my chest when thinking of his name? My best guy friend of 11 years and I have always been “a thing”. When we started to date. He cheated on me with MY SISTER. I’m so heartbroken it makes me sick. What do I do?

[senorab12]

First of all, leave him. He doesn’t love the way you do and you can’t be with him, if you already did I’m happy for you, there’s the first step. Then talk to your sister, tell her how you feel and then forgive her, that will you bring you peace I know it’s difficult and if you’re not feeling like it then don’t do it, wait until you’re ready but forgiving her will bring you good things. I’m not telling you to become best friends with your sister just forgive her and then distance yourself from her cause that’s betrayal and she doesn’t appreciate you enough therefor you don’t need that kind of energy in your life. And last, cry just let everything out of you and allow yourself to heal, lose all connection with this guy and kinda start over, I mean meet new people but this time be more cautious, know them better to see if they’re worth your time and energy. You will get through this, there’s someone out there that’ll love you and respect you, you got this! You’re beautiful and strong, don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re not!

I’m here for you.

[henryclark in reply to senorab12]

Well, not sure I like the direct advice, and I really have a hard time finding fault in any of the suggestions.

Nothing better for you then to forgive them. Anger is poison.

Sounds like this advice came from somebody that has gone through pain and realizes in the end u gotta trust that person in the mirror.

Remember that both of these people did something because they are unhappy and suffering. Forgiving doesn’t mean setting yourself up for repetition.

Feel the feelings and then realize you can let them go, I find when someone hurt me that understanding their hurt helps me forgive... doesn’t make the action ok, and I can let it go. Family is for life, finding the strength to genuinely forgive someone for such an act is powerful.

I am sorry you have to go through such pain.