Insecurities

[Chav_a143]

I’ve been thinking a lot about dating and marriage (I’m only 20 so I know I’m young but.... still) I’ve never had a boyfriend so ive never been in love. It’s hard for me to imaging someone actually loving me because I have so many issues I feel like. EXTREME low confidence, depression, anxiety, etc. idk it’s impossible for me to imagine and then I start thinking about all the things that are wrong with me. I guess this is just a post to let it all out but if anyone has advice or tips that would be helpful

[_noname_]

I can tell you that I deal with the same internal issues and I also know that I have a lot of insecurities that have built up from toxic people I’ve had as friends and family. I dated someone for six years and things were terrible. Now I’ve been with someone for 2 years and they’re amazing. I can tell you that if you’ve never dated, you will definitely learn a lot about yourself and who you are when you’re learning to love someone. And if that person can’t learn to love you back or vise versa, there will always be someone else who will come along. It might not work out the first time or the first few times but love is definitely worth trying.

[senorab12]

I feel like you a 100% but I’ve learned that there’s always someone willing to take with all your imperfections, that they’ll see everything you hate about yourself and turn it into something beautiful. Just wait and see, you’ll be surprised, your significant other is out there waiting for you.

[RoseyViolet]

You are not alone. Just because society says we should have a boyfriend or experience being in love by your age, it just simply isn't true. Good for you for being a strong, independent person who is learning, growing in your self awareness and wanting to find a way to change the things that might bother or hinder you into future relationships. That being said, there is nothing wrong with you. Insecurities and low confidence can change, sometimes really quickly.

I used to suffer with low self esteem, terrible low confidence. Then I started investing in myself with furthering my education, getting a good job, working on staying active and finding the little things in life which brought me joy, little by little I began to change. As I made healthy, wise changes for myself, it brought people into my life who were positive change makers as well. Lastly, the most important change was giving my whole heart to Jesus Christ, wherein he made me a new person inside who now had a new outlook on life. Living life for Him and loving on others made all the healthy changes I needed and craved.

I'm not sure if you are person of faith or even if you have options for faith based learnings, but I'd encourage you to find a good local church, they are full of imperfect people who are just trying to live life to the fullest too. Keep searching, keep looking, there is peace, there is confidence and love, I believe, its found with Jesus. I'll be praying for you my friend.

[Hidden]

I've just spent my time in Bathhouses and Craigslist lol but on a positive note I found out how to do it right. And I'm old man. So i say keep strutting

[sweetiepye]

We never reach a point in life where we are problem free . We tell ourselves that as soon as we've solved a problem we'll start living our lives the way we ought to , but we don't. We exchange one set of problems for another . Life is never perfect , relationships are never perfect . The problems have to be something you can live with and relationships have to balance out to be more good than bad. So don't wait...jump into that hot mess and start living ! Pam