Stress level

[Darknlovely504]

I'M stressed out the most when I am at home.

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Me too and it's sad because I love my daughter and husband but I can't stand living with his mom after two years now. He doesn't work and I see every one hanging out all weekend as I do the shopping and chores and am the only one that goes back to work all week. I just want to sleep but I'm missing all the important stuff and then I feel guilty.

[Darknlovely504 in reply to Hidden]

I know how u feel. Everything falls on me because I'm single. I have to worry about everything. I'm so tired of paying bills etc most of the time I can't buy myself nothing. Then at times I can't get what we need nor want. It's so depressing

[Sabio77 in reply to Hidden]

have you talked to the other people in the house about how you feel so much heavy weight on your shoulders. that you would like some participation so you can not feel like you are missing out on everything. having to live with elderly parents is not easy but it is also a blessing. one can share this important part of their lives. talking openly might help. hugs of encouragement.

[Hidden in reply to Sabio77]

I have talked to them. My husband still won't work. His mom isn't elderly. She just let us live there because we lost our house with his being unemployed. It has its benefits but two years is alot.

[Sabio77 in reply to Hidden]

I see. Maybe you can give him positive incentives. good reasons to at least work part time. tell him that you love him and that you understand that theres benefits to the situation. however, maybe helping somehow... and list a few things that he can do. that will help you. I know its a struggle. You can also try tough love. sometimes, a person needs a little eye opener. try reverse psychology on him. if he expects you to do something at a certain time everyday don't do it. of course, do not start argument. don't pick up after him. you are not a doormat or a maid but his wife. you can honestly say without emotions that you are not his mother and you literally are living there. be creative. but wise. it does work. once he begins to notice a difference, mention that you realize he's not working. that you do care about him. that you want the best for him. that you appreciate the fact his parents are allowing you guys to stay there. however, it is not proper or appropriate to still not assist in the daily duties and living together with his parents. Its been 2 yrs and you want to have a healthy and happy relationship. that you want to set some healthy boundaries for both of you. (keep in mind that you have allowed this to continue for him to freely keep taking and less giving to the relationship. so, he thinks its still ok after 2 years. ) be wise on your choice of tone and words. try real hard not to show emotion. only calm and compassionate on his feelings while you discuss your frustration. it will work.

[Hidden in reply to Sabio77]

Thank you. Great advice.

[Sabio77 in reply to Hidden]

here if you wish to talk further

[Hidden in reply to Sabio77]

🤗 Thanks. I do.

[Sabio77]

darknlovely504, You are not alone. I'm glad you shared on here. why do you feel stressed out the most when you are home? what causes/triggers it? is it the people or the things to do? what happens and how do you handle it? im here if you wish to talk. hugs

[Darknlovely504 in reply to Sabio77]

My kids and bills etc

[Sabio77 in reply to Darknlovely504]

why do you feel that your kids are stressing you... i totally get the bills.

[Darknlovely504 in reply to Sabio77]

Because they are

[Sabio77 in reply to Darknlovely504]

here if you wish to talk more...