Exposing my issue

[Icandothis2017-2018]

So I suffer with anxiety and depression and world mental health week last week made me stand up and let work know my issues and reasons behind shying away. I thought it would help but I got anxious in canteen and sat in locker room with my food and drink

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Wow, Icandothis! That is so brave of you. I think you should be really proud. It is natural to feel nervous afterwards as this is a huge part of your life. I hope people respond with warmth and kindness.

[kenster1]

well done you should be proud of yourself its no shame having an illness the only shame comes from the folk who put us down.next time your in canteen sit with your usual bunch and talk about the same things as usual.i hope you got a positive reaction from them.

[Icandothis2017-2018 in reply to kenster1]

I never sit with anyone though and the person I used to sit with complained too manager for me using toilet

[kenster1 in reply to Icandothis2017-2018]

sorry to hear that you've done nothing wrong though so hold your head up high.ive had co workers like that and even in my volunteering we had a similar thing today.

[Icandothis2017-2018 in reply to kenster1]

The same person gets Drs to write a note so the said person can’t work self scan yet can work self scan in other shops and dance at peoples parties for long periods of time yet has bad legs. I have been told by gp I have what could quite highly possibly be arthritis in my foot as been bad for a bit. Yet I still manage and it keeps going every 5/10 mins but o manage 3-4 hours on it. She is a bully not just me she has upset either

[kenster1 in reply to Icandothis2017-2018]

when we rise above this behaviour it makes them uncomfortable when they are called out and shown up for what they are.yeah some folk get away with far to much.

[Icandothis2017-2018 in reply to kenster1]

My gphas said once I have X-ray and results are back we can take it from there about work. I offered work alternating tasks like self scan on feet for a while then sat and just said you need a Drs note. But if I am able to chess results/ xrays via paying for documentation to show it is legitimate then so be it.

[kenster1 in reply to Icandothis2017-2018]

its great that even through adversity your still out earning a living and doing your best so keep it up.

[Icandothis2017-2018 in reply to kenster1]

I have been off since I finished 9pm Saturday and not back until this Saturday. I obviously signed off to do overtime but once the signed overtime is done now I have had a break from work and the drama I have re evaluated my work life balance and I am allowed to refuse any overtime not signed and because my partner has learning disability I care for him fair enough it’s only extra hour per shift but my friend was chatting with me on messenger and told her bout my depression speech etc and overtime getting to me and she kinda said in a way re evaluate everything because if I am rundown then am no good as my partners carer etc. So I sat and thought long and hard and decided no more overtime. I am unpaid carer as my partner is not on benefits however trying for pip then I am apply for carers allowance he too has depression and anxiety and I constantly need to prompt him on taking meds etc which r important as he has diabetes. So if work say I need to do overtime I am covered. Spoke to union about this and they said it is classed as voluntary on wage slip so I can refuse 24/7 to work it

[kenster1 in reply to Icandothis2017-2018]

im an unpaid carer as well its tough going specially with you working but yeah you don't want burn out you need to look after yourself and your friend spoke wise words to you.

[Kainan]

Still, you did it. That is a big step and it shows that you care. You should feel proud of yourself.