Looking for Courage to move on

[LookingforSunrise]

I am seeking courage to quit my job that is not only isolating but very unhealthy. I have had to break downs in the lasts 3 months primarily brought on by my job. I am scared to death to quit but at the same time I am scared to death to stay. I am afraid I will have another break down. How do you pick yourself up and move on?

[Buhbs]

Easier said then done im sure, but use exactly what you said as your motivation! Your current job is,"not only isolating but very unhealthy." You have also stated that you've had to(which I'm assuming is two breakdowns in 3 months). I believe you have the WANT to if not the NEED to leave your job for such reasons. As a living being, I think we are aware that health is important. Your mental being a part of your health, I think we should take care of it to our best ability to be happier and healthier. Id say look for something now on your free time I guess, get them interviews in and take that. The fact that your considering is saying I want to help myself out of this situation, so I hope you do that for yourself. Be kind/kinder to yourself so that you dont deteriorate further in that way. Its okay to be afraid, but doing nothing will get us nowhere. Try try again as fear can also be our motivation. I hope I made sense here 🤗

Oop another thing..if you think about it, staying at this job and breaking down in whatever way that you do can also make things worse at your current job. You may not work efficiently at some point if you havent already. At that point you may actually be stuck and in a worser condition/ case scenario .Maybe something to keep in mind?

[LookingforSunrise in reply to Buhbs]

Thanks for your words of wisdom. The last paragraph was especially helpful.

[Buhbs in reply to LookingforSunrise]

I'm glad I could help even if it was just a little. I hope you do well regardless of the choice you make.😊

[Hidden]

Hi.

I’m so sorry for your struggles, I truly know how this feels.

In the end I got too sick to carry on with my job..I gave notice just in time..no one new in my workplace, I didn’t feel I could say just how awful I felt, I made an excuse and gave notice...just in time it would seem, once I left I totally broke down, at least I was able to do so in some kind of peace from the struggles of the workplace...I was a workaholic for many a year...

That was five years ago..I’ve survived, I never thought I could or would, after working all my life,,I’ve not worked since..it’s taken a long time to get where I am now...and it’s still a work in progress as far as my mental health goes..

If I’d not left work, I dread to think how ill I would have got...and honestly, whether I would have survived..

I’m so grateful to realise there’s more important things than work....my health for one...

🌻🌻🌹🌹

[LookingforSunrise in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for your reply. It is nice to know there are others out there who are in the same boat as me. You words help me to feel better about my choice. It is time for me to move on. May I ask, how do you live with no income from a job? Thanks much

[Hidden in reply to LookingforSunrise]

Glad my words help.

Believe me I didn’t take it lightly at the time...work had been my life...

Not sure what country you are in and what help is available to you...

? I’m in uk

Xx

[LookingforSunrise in reply to Hidden]

I am in the USA. You probably have more help available to you but the state I am in has some resources. Thanks again

[Hidden in reply to LookingforSunrise]

Reach out to those resources, it can work..

Sending you good wishes 🧚🏻‍♀️🧚🏻‍♀️💕💕

[ceelovestea]

Hi LookingforSunshine! I had a similar experience a month ago. My job was seriously unhealthy! I would have panic attacks at work but I still stayed for 3 years because I was too scared to quit. When I finally did, I did it like a bandaid. I put my 2 weeks in and never looked back. Some days I feel like I made a big mistake but I tell myself it was the right decision because I know what’s best for myself. I feel 10x better! I have a better handle at my anxiety, I sleep better at night and I wish I listened to my body and quit sooner.

Good luck! ❤️

[LookingforSunrise in reply to ceelovestea]

Thank much, it is good hear that someone else went through what I am going through. I have a feeling I will feel better once I put my notice in but I am afraid of feeling like a loser after wards.

[Hidden in reply to LookingforSunrise]

Your not a loser, it takes a heck of a lot of strength and courage to leave a job...you are a warrior, surviving, doing the best for you...that is not what a loser would look like...

Take it easy on yourself 🌹

[LookingforSunrise in reply to Hidden]

Thanks Olivia, it was wonderful to hear this. I really appreciate it.

[Hidden in reply to LookingforSunrise]

Your welcome, and it’s very true 🌺🌺

[DemonEyes]

It's really hard to do, so the fact you're even thinking about it is so brave! Its a big decision, but you have to ask yourself "is this making me miserable? Is it hurting my health?" And if the answer is yes, you shouldn't be doing it, you should be doing something you like. I know that's not easy, but I say this because I've been through it. I was in my last year of University and it was making me miserable as well as making me mentally and physically ill. They didn't care that I was throwing up every day or that I was permanently in pain. If I couldn't show up every single day, they told me I should quit. I only had 3 months left when I suddenly realized, what am I doing this for? I'm making myself sick, for what? So after a lot of consideration, I quit. For now, I'm on benefits (I live in the UK) while I'm recovering and slowly making steps towards setting up my own business (I'm an illustrator). Even though I don't have much money, I am so much happier. Yes, I still have panic attacks and lose hope sometimes, but in comparison to how bad I felt a year and a half ago, I've made a massive improvement. I get out of bed every day, even if I'm literally too tired to do anything, I still want to get up each day. If you have the option to do the same, by all means, do it. Maybe try applying for jobs that don't make you feel so bad, something you don't hate and in your spare time do things you enjoy as much as possible. That way you're surrounding yourself with things that make you happier which should eventually help you feel better.

I know that it feels like an impossible decision, I had the same feeling, but I made the choice that was best for my health and it was one of the best choices I've made. Also, remember 100 years ago a lot of things were deemed impossible and humanity always proves that nothing is impossible, so I believe whatever you choose to do, you got this, you can do it, I believe in you.