How do you deal with depression or anxiety?

[MamaJ1]

Ugh! I want to runaway! I hate these feeling of wanting to be gone or maybe my family would be better off without me. I wish I didn't feel this way. 🙁

[CD1202]

Hi! I’m here if you need to talk. I understand exactly. I to hate the feeling of not wanting to be here, I have 4 beautiful babies and a wonderful husband and I feel guilty for not being happy.

[eharvey8]

I hate that feeling and am all too familiar with it. When we're feeling a little higher than these low times, it's much easier for us to think logically and realize that there's no way anyone would be happier without us in their lives. You are an integral part of your family and your circle of friends, and it is simply not true that they would be better off without you. It's also important to remember that when we feel low, everything we see and think is covered by a dark cloud of illogical thinking so that we can only focus on the less-than-good/happy/positive things. Because of that, we are mostly only able to see the negative ways we impact people (which I promise is far outweighed by the positive ways we impact them- otherwise we wouldn't have a positive and mutually loving relationship with them), and our brains ignore, forget about, or try to invalidate the ways that we matter to them. Though it doesn't always help reduce the unpleasantness of the moment, try to hold tightly onto the realization that our brains our tricking us when we feel invaluable and burdensome to our families. They love us and we love them, and when we start to feel a little less low, we can start to see all the positive ways we support them (and vice versa) much more clearly. I am so sorry you're struggling with this right now, but try to keep all this in mind to realize that you won't always feel this way. Hang in there– we're all here with you.

[lovetodance2018]

I am so sorry you are struggling. Depression and anxiety are a horrible diseasess. I struggled for years. It is so important that you are getting the right support and help. For me it took finding the right medication to balance the chemicals in my brain. But that wasn't enough, we also need counseling to look at why the depression keeps coming back. It happens when our thoughts become skewed and self-defeating. I had to really work on being aware of my mindset. Practice thinking positively and repeating it often even when we don't feel like it, helps change our way of thinking over time.

I had to give myself a break and not be so hard on myself.

Here are two recommendations that work for me when I am struggling. One is deep conscious breathing. I call it the 557 breathing. Breath in through your nose for the count of 5 breathing in all the good things you want in life, hold for count of 5 and exhaling through your mouth for the count of 7 letting go of any thoughts or hurts that are affecting you. Do this sequence 10 times or for about 2 min. You will be amazed at how relaxed and at peace you feel after the breathing sequence.

The other one is called Emotional Freedom Tapping. This method helps incorporate positive self-talk with acupressure points. Here is a link to show you the points. bit.ly/1GcH97u

Find something encouraging to say to yourself like I am a great mom, I am self-assured, I am special, I have value - then tap on the points. You do this on both sides of the body. You will be amazed at how self-empowered you feel after this exercise. Doing these will help establish new healthy thoughts in your life. I will be praying for you. God is your strength. I know will feel better. God bless! Hugs!

[Audiomarc1]

It seems like an epidemic and speaking for myself my harmful thoughts change daily. They all have there levels on a different day. But same painful experience is the outcome. My psychiatrist just hands me pills. What I'm going to try is talk therapy. I just want to get the right one. I don't need an empty chair but someone I connect with, who knows the pain and tries to get that special dialogue started. Hard to find I guess. I just joined a national group called nami. It unites people with mental illnesses. They are online, give it a try. They have many in person meeting places everywhere in every state and towns. You just never know. Good luck to people who try this group, nothing to lose, just maybe it helps.

[lovetodance2018]

How are you doing this week? I have been praying for you.