How do you deal?

[sethadam93]

How does anyone deal with that nagging feeling that someone is going to leave you, even when they reassure you they aren’t? Cause I can’t stop myself, and it’s causing major issues.

[Hidden]

How are you so sure they will leave you?

[sethadam93 in reply to Hidden]

That’s the problem, i don’t know for sure. It’s a fear i have brought on by anxiety and abandonment issues.

[Hidden in reply to sethadam93]

I share your fear.

[hypercat54]

Hi the surest way to drive someone away is to behave like you are now. It then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. You need to get some help with your issues before this happens so I advise you to seek counselling. x

[Hidden]

Hello sethsdam93!

I have shared those fears before in the past and just had to let go of them and trust what the other person is telling me. Continuing with the fear after being given reassurance will end up sabotaging the relationship. Trust is so essential in any relationship. You don’t realize it, but you can stop yourself. You have power over your thoughts. Don’t think for a minute that you don’t. You’re not helpless with what you choose to think. Empower yourself and think positively! You can do it! 🌺🙂🌺

[Hidden]

Just went through the same thing. She left. In retrospect i recognize that it was the best thing. It’s allowing me to take a real look at myself and how to be the best me. Also beware that it’s not your own insecurities that are getting in the way. That will drive your love away.

[fauxartist]

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