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[Cantdealanymore]

So many triggers. So much pain. Cant. Just cant.

When will it all go away.

[Agora1]

Can'tdeal, this will all go away when you change "can't" to "can".

No matter what the triggers may be, the negative response you are

allowing your brain to think is making you feel stuck, hopeless and

helpless. That's not the case. You and only you have the power to

pull out of this situation. We can't tolerate what anxiety is doing to

us. Anxiety is a thought, not a fact. You must learn to accept what

it tells you as lies. Those negative thoughts are playing back in your

brain throughout the night while you sleep. You go to bed in the same

state you wake up in the morning. Finding a method that will help

you such as Affirmations can be very helpful in turning your negative

thinking into positive. Until you can turn "I think I can into I knew I could" xx

[sweetiepye]

Agora has given you excellent advice. That has been my experience and it works. The answer to over coming anxiety is simple. but you have to be committed and work for it. Be kind and understanding to yourself and patient .Pam

[Agora1 in reply to sweetiepye]

Thanks sweetiepye. It does work and puts you back in the control seat. xx

[Hidden]

I respond to posts here when I think my own experience with anxiety and depression might help someone.

I was in hospital with depression of the deepest darkest kind and eventually I was offered a treatment which, at the time, scared the hell out of me...quite literally. I was given a week to think about it in which time I said 'I am ok, l am getting better’ to myself over and over again. I’d never heard of positive affirmations. The world wide web hadn’t arrived 🙂.

Agora and Sweetiepye are spot on. Go for it because you just can.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

What was the treatment you were offered while in the hospital? Was it shock therapy?

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Yup! ECT. I didn’t know anything about it apart from the scary stuff I’d seen in old black and white films. The psychiatrist‘s registrar didn’t explain anything and didn’t look up at me.

Some patients had the treatment and soon left hospital. Some came back after a couple of weeks having slipped right back into depression.

I started believing that I was going to be ok without it and so I was eventually.

That was 30 odd years ago.

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

Whatever works Christophina and helps you go forward is the right thing.

The power of the mind in believing plays a big part in our healing.

Thank you for sharing your journey xx

[Hidden]

Wow...really. I am in a deep, dark hole now. I wish I could just change my attitude and believe I would be ok. Are you taking anti depressants now? I don’t want to die but don’t want to live either.

[Kat63 in reply to Hidden]

Hold on. Try to just get through an hour at a time. Ten minutes at a time, if you need to break it down that small.

[Hidden]

No I don’t take anti depressants now. Not that easy, is it? to change your attitude and believe you will be ok again. To know or acknowledge that that‘s what you need to do is one tiny step in the right direction. I remember wanting everything to stop for a while.

The deep dark hole...what does it look like? What can you see? What’s around it?

With a little help from a therapist, I visualised my deep dark hole with her and we worked on....well she wanted to help me fill it in but had to go with what I wanted so we put railway sleepers over it. I could go on and on with that story. The thing is she was the first and only person not to skip over mention of the deep dark hole in which I was sitting. I found her attitude and ideas about healing by creative visualisation refreshing and.....wait for it....uplifting.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Sorry, that was in answer to Returntonormal’s last question to me.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for the reply. My story is a bit different than yours. I suffered a trauma 2 years ago and have not been the same since. I have suicidal ideation every day. I am struggling to stay alive. Right now the only thing keeping me alive is clonazapem...and that is addictive.

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

Returntonormal9, I'm sorry for what happened to you 2 years ago. Of course, everyone's story is different and impacts the person to different intensities. PTSD needs

the help and guidance of a professional. It is a serious form of anxiety and needs

to be addressed and watched over. Medication may be the glue keeping you together right now....addictive or not. This is about you healing to the point of

functioning once again. Whatever it takes, believe that your life is well worth it.

Keeping talking with us. There are others who suffer immense emotional pain

from trauma they have experienced. Keeping you in my thoughts. xx

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

Christophina, I agree that the help of a good therapist is essential in helping

you achieve that goal. But we must listen to their words and wisdom. It took

me years at first because I would walk into the therapist's office and closed

my ears to her psycho babble. Walked out feeling the same as when I walked in.

Until one day, I had that "aha" moment. Everything I had heard over the years

came rushing back and made sense. From that moment on, I understood that

therapy included some hard work from me. I couldn't go in and just expect a

miracle. It does take work but so well worth it. xx

[Kat63]

Take it just a step at a time. It’s OK to be not OK. You don’t have to try to go from wrecked to healed in one day.

You might want to start with a breathing exercise at the times when you feel the anxiety rising. Then as time goes on, add in other things that help. Meditation, CBT, and meds (under a doctor’s direction) all helped me.