Silence

[fallen_leaf]

The more stressed and depressed I become the more I just want silence. I can’t have the TV on for one child and another on the iPad with the volume high and my husband listening to music loudly in the kitchen and the dogs barking nonstop especially the height pitched one. I just want silence....

[NeuronerdDoaty]

Never happened at my house. At one point I had six teens at home. Respect for air waves and eye space was paramount. They all turned out great btw. Put a stop to it or put a chair in a closet. I used to love sitting in the closet reading.

[Hidden]

I totally get it....which is why I stay in my room most of the time and when I drive there is no radio on...

[BrainFog-Ninja]

Hi fallen_leaf,

I am with you on that! I have major sensory overload issues too, and have learned how to make things work for me. When that happens, I must make all the different noises, lights, and background noises stop....or go someplace less active, and then it passes and I’m ok.

Decades ago....when I didn’t know what it was....I would literally have an anger explosion (shoot up right thru my skull) once it built and built up....there was no stopping it then. It is an awful feeling. Once you know what it is, family can help you manage the situations that cause you problems. At least mine can...if I ask sweetly, of course. 🌞 🌸 🍄

[fallen_leaf in reply to BrainFog-Ninja]

I had my daughter put on headphones for her iPad. Then we turned off TV. But then the girls were playing and laughing loudly and my husband started playing music loud and I just couldn’t take it.

[jocie609]

Yeah I can understand wanting silence...I am just not good with it. When things are silent, I feel like I have to feel the space with noise. It could be that when I am silent or it's quiet around me (except for getting in bed)...my mind has time to wander and it's not going to good places, lol...

[fallen_leaf in reply to jocie609]

I think my husband is the opposite of me like you and it doesn’t make for a good situation...

[jocie609 in reply to fallen_leaf]

Yeah then my boyfriend must be like you needing his "me time" and "silent time". I am learning to adjust to it and then if i wanna make some noise, I go in the other room. We make it work...

[TrustnGod in reply to jocie609]

That’s crazy. I am fascinated by people like you. In high school, I was always the one to drive my friends and I around as we were driving and conversations faded, it would get so quiet and they’d freak out saying it was too weird and awkward and they needed music 😂. Meanwhile I didn’t even notice the silence. I love silence I could sit in a room with someone for hours silently. But I get what you mean with the mind wandering a bit toooo far during silent times.

[jocie609 in reply to TrustnGod]

I think the only time I really want to be silent is when I am journaling (writing prayers to God) or if I am reading the Bible (the book not the audio version on my phone). I can be silent sometimes if I am with some new people and I feel insecure or intimidated by who they present themselves to be verses who I am or feel I need to be...

[Hidden]

I understand. I am in my room at the in-laws where I live now. It's where I always am. My husband and daughter come in and talk about their days and so on and most of the time my heart races until they leave and it's quiet again.

[Hidden]

We live in a noisy world. If you look back in history you will find after the industrial revolution our world got loud. I have a theory that it’s one of the causes of the increase in anxiety and depression that is seen in society. Our genetic evolution has not caught up with the rate of our technological advances. I had great grand parents who grew up without the light bulb. They would tell me how the radio was a revolutionary invention. So it’s just not you who needs silence. Everyone would benefit from it.

[Want2BHappy3]

Some of us feel that way, I'm Not saying this to be sarcastic, but how about going to your room with headphones? Or leave you're house and go for a Walk?

[fallen_leaf in reply to Want2BHappy3]

My kids are little still so I can’t leave them. When I go to a room to be alone most of the time they follow me....

[Want2BHappy3 in reply to fallen_leaf]

Yea, Ive been there. You don't have any family that can help? You're husband either?

[porcupyne]

You’re isolating yourself

[Hidden]

I totally understand. I live in a row house in a busy city and sometimes just having EVERYTHING turned off in the middle of the day when others are at work is the only peace of mind I get... however, the silence can also be deafening some days... frightening. It's all such a balance and I've learned to be careful of what I wish for.. sometimes I get it.