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Sometimes silence is another word for pain

Not everyone will be able to tell you when something is wrong, some of us are bad with words when we're in that dark place and our depression takes over and make us think we're burdensome. So beware of the silence, sometimes a cry for help is wordless. Instead of asking someone to reach out when they need you... you should try reaching out to them. Cause some of us are silent on the outside cause there's too much chaos and war on the inside

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Well said. So true. Thanks for posting this.

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🤗🌻

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Yes sis I agree and don’t you think this mental anguish twists reality into some kinda surreal distorted dream? It’s like we are on the other side of the mirror and can’t be heard. So yes, reach out and know that this hurting person is fumbling through a fog of delusion. Help lead them into the light. This place is like a rope that goes to the bottom of the well. Keep pulling up, hand over hand, all of us in a line, we will pull eachother out.

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I know exactly what you mean about being onthe other side of the mirror, people always tall about reach out when you need help like why can't you be the one reaching out to us instead

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I can do much relate to this. I was just thinking of someone who told me to reach out but in my mind when I am sick I think they don’t want me to or oh I just can’t I feel so inside myself, you know? So yeah it’s nice when people check in on us and truely care.

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I think some people say it just to say it honestly

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When you see that this forum alone has over 20,000 members, it's frightening to think of all the unspoken pain out there in the digital ether.

Anyway, how are you feeling, Callmedanielle?

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It's too scary to think about

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And too scary not to think about

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Exactly

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Millions of people out there suffering in silence and putting on a happy mask it's heartbreaking, hope you're doing well mrmonk

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Equally heartbreaking, many people open up and are met with indifference, rejection, or, worse, cruelty.

Though I'm presently unwell, I'm not without hope. And I hope you are faring better than me.

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I am sorry you are unwell. You are such a caring person MrMonk. I hope you feel better soon. Gemma x

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Thank you so much again for lifting my spirits, Gemma.

Physically, I'm still struggling, but I've been trying to harness all the energy I do have and use it to work on poems. This community has been such a source of comfort and hope for me -- you and everyone here just inspire me with your collective strength and resilience, your compassion and kindness, even in your own duress -- I'm moved by the vulnerability of others to reveal myself through verse, as that is the only way I know of to truly articulate what I feel and show that I care.

And while I whittle away at lines, I keep you in my thoughts and hope all is still well with you.

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Thank you mrmonk x

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How was your day today, hopefully you're feeling just a tiny bit better, i don't really like mondays.

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I know what you mean about Mondays...ugh, and today was a doozy...for months now, I haven't been able to eat solid foods without getting quickly full and feeling very sick -- still waiting on a diagnosis, but my doctor suspects a condition called gastroparesis -- so, I've had to stick to a soft/liquid diet, which has its perks -- as much pudding and ice cream as I can manage, along with Ensure Plus shakes for nutrition, but today...today, even the ice cream has done me wrong...my belly feels bloated and tight...I just wish I knew what this is exactly and how I can effectively treat it.

So, we can bid this Monday a not-so-fond farewell and hope for a better Tuesday! Sorry for blathering on...how are things with you?

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People with mental issues we know how to put on a brave face most times noone have any idea

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It's the saddest truth

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Preach dear Sistah !! Say ALL of that loud enough & again for the people in the back. Thank you for your post today. I always look forward to them. 💜

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Hey love, I'm sending you hugs babe

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I’m sending hugs right back to you :) ! 💕🌻

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Yeah I am silent when I am depressed. Why make my problems some one else’s? Who wants to listen to someone b*tch and moan about their life I figure. I usually just go to sleep. Which is what I shall do now,

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All of us here do want to hear you, whatever it is I'll listen

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Thanks. I will be fine.

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Like Callme- said- vent whenever you need. How are you doing?

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I am doing fine.

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Agree with this, for some reaching out is one of the hardest thing to do especially when in that state of mind

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Exactly!!

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great post and good heads up......

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🌻 hope you're doing ok faux

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💕

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Starr sweetie 💜

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You are such a kind soul

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Yes! This is very true. I once had a therapist who did not read silence, and got hostile during silent periods. I ditched her. Silence sometimes can be painful, and a way of processing I think as well. Sometimes, I think laughing can be a cover up as well. And how are YOU doing?

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Im doing ok.You did right in ditching her, as a therapist she should've known better. Some of us have to put on a happy face at times, that make things worse and gets very exhausting to us. Hope you're having a great sunday hun

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Sometimes I think just reaching out to someone to say "hello" or sharing a story or a laugh can mean so much. Right on for posting this.

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It really goes along way, we're not the only one who should be reaching out, we need people to check up on us even tell a bad joke, anything really

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You have said it beautifully.😊😊😊

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🤗🌻 thanks hun

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I am like that most of the time

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Get ready for my nagging cause I'll be checking up on you regularly hun 💙

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Thanks I think need that I am really struggling at the moment

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You are so right Danielle. It is so hard for us to reach out especially when we're in the dark place. Sometimes the act of someone reaching out to us is enough to help... Even a little. Let's us know someone loves & cares for us. Love you Sunflower. I hope you are doing well... big hugs. ❤🌻🍫❤🌻🍫❤🌻🍫

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Sending you millions of hugs Mel 🌻🌻💙💙💙💙

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It's so hard for me to talk to someone when I'm depressed and/or anxious. I just want to escape from the world. It's so crippling at times.

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Yes i know what you mean i usually shut down n don't talk at all

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Beautifully written.

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Thank you 😊

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Thank you!

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You are right about this, I tend to not say much or display my feelings. I don’t want anyone to talk to me or be around anyone when I’m like this.

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I use to do the same thing i shut down and shut everyone out, talking tend to be so exhausting plus i feel like why bother they won't get it

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This is so me!

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We're definitely not alone, a lot of us can relate

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I used to be the total opposite,now Its like I don't even know who I am. I come on here for a day or 2 then I disappear for a while

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Maybe something changed in your life, what's different, what's the cause behind it

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Everything changed 3 years ago long story short, I got hurt at work suffered multiple injuries which will keep me from working in the future, it also stopped everything I loved to do, dealing with chronic pain all day every day. I hate being useless.

There so much more but I'm not going to go on about it, anyways it changed my life and I can't accept this me.

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Now it's us who are reaching out to you, all of us are trying to be hopeful that you're okay

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