Giving Up on Finding Me Time

I have taken the advice many of you suggested and tried to take time for myself. I am either the most unlucky person in the world or maybe I am just not meant to have me time. For the last three weeks literally every planned evening for myself has been sabotaged in some way by some reasonable explanation or emergent situation. Tonight was there is water under the washer it’s probably leaking. Can’t seem to reproduce it so apparently isn’t anymore. But it’s 830pm so why go out now. The last time was because my wife was working all weekend and my original plan of me time was then cancelled and wiped off the calendar otherwise we wouldn’t have had any family time. So subsequently all I am thinking and saying to myself now is....don’t bother trying to find the time, the disappointment just makes my head worse.

Anyone have any great suggestions or Pearls of wisdom. I cannot seem to snap out of this I give up mentality. But I am well aware the let down isn’t helpful to my depression at all.

[Agora1]

Well MrSadness, I looked to see if I was one who responded to your dilemma in finding

some "me time". I am usually thinking 10 minutes or so in a quiet corner of your home

where you won't be disturbed. It may have to wait in some cases for when the children

are asleep. The purpose of this "me time" is to lower your stress of the day and calm

both your mind and body. When you have a family and a working partner, it's pretty

hard to make the time to actually go out of the house, there will usually be something

that will come up. That's life.

But rather than get further down in disappointment and frustration, knowing you have

some time to yourself even for a short time can regenerate you. Being a father and a husband who suffers from depression is not easy. Rather than have no time to yourself,

grab what you can get and make the most of it whether 10 min, an hour or an evening.

Some day the house will be sooo quiet that you will have more time than you know what

to do with. Right now do a lot of deep breathing and meditation x

[enzosmom]

Don't try to plan it. Let something happen that gives you a few minutes to breath. That's me time briefly. I stopped and stared at some cows in a field the other day on my drive home, it helped me to center myself before returning to the shit storm of home

[Agora1 in reply to enzosmom]

You got it enzosmom xx

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I go for a drive wherever, park the car and just sit there till im ready to go back home..even if its around the corner..

[Hidden]

Hello MrSadness

Best advice: stop trying to find time and start taking time for yourself.

Be ruthless.

Question: who sabotages your plans for me time? You? Your wife or the washing machine?

For now, do you have a decent lunch break at work? Can you go for a 20 minute walk?

I think you wrote in a previous post that your appointment/s with your therapist had to be cancelled??

At one time an appointment with my therapist was my lifeline. I can only guess at the depths of your sadness.

You know it’s not a question of snapping out of anything. Fill your cup first MrSadness. Think big and build the life you yearn for instead of managing the one in front of you.

Be brave, take what you need because you are worth it.

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Im taking up this advice..

[YogaLife]

I am retired now but when I was working, raising family, taking care of others, I would get up early and go to a diner for breakfast before work. It is stolen time but I feel so much better after. I didnt tell anyone about this because I was sure they would talk me out of it.