Pregnant and struggling

[banban414]

Hey y’all, it’s my first time trying anything like this, so bear with me.

I’m 27, married and 21 weeks pregnant with our first baby boy. I’m so excited, but I’ve let me anxiety and depression get in the way of that. Thankfully, my OBGYN thought it was best for me to stay on Zoloft during the pregnancy, but I’ve still felt down the past few days. We are waiting on some test results for our baby. Everything I’ve read said it should be fine, but I’m still anxious as I wait. I just found out my grandmother is not doing well and may not make it much longer. All of this has just started my negative thinking about me being inadequate as a wife, mother, friend, etc.

I know my hormones are ridiculous now and I know this will pass. It always does. But I’m just super down on myself.

Any ladies out there who felt this way while pregnant?

[hypercat54]

Hi of course you are worried as any prospective mother is and this is natural. It has nothing to do with your feelings of inadequacy as some things are outside of your control. Try and think that someone loves you enough to make a baby with you and that should give you some comfort. They think you are enough so be reassured by that. Remember than anxiety can affect your baby so try and keep it under control as much as possible.

Oh and congratulations! x

[Essentiallyfree]

Really sorry to hear your struggling right now; sounds like you've got some major life happening all at once. My best advice is to make sure that you know how loved and worthy you are. Take time to love on yourself and that growing baby. Working on yourself and getting healthy (not just physically) will be one of the greatest gifts you can give your little one. I know it's hard to not buy into the lies that you're not enough especially when life is happening all around you. But friend.. don't let those feelings override the truth.. the truth that you are enough. Your husband, your family, and your baby need you. They need the best version of you. Maybe seeing a counselor through this season would be beneficial for you? Hope you're doing better today mama.