Love Yourself

My daughterinlaw ( who also deals with anxiety/ depression), sent me this. I think it is very powerful. I believe we depressed anxious people have difficulty loving ourselves as we have mistakingly led ourselves to believe we “ dont deserve bettter... we are unworthy... we cant... we will fail.... we are failures...we arent normal... we arent fixable... we are broke... we would be better off dead....”. Fill in your own fav self talk. Myself included, we dont follow our own good advice we give to others. I ask myself, would I want to be my own friend judging by the way I treat myself? Do I want to get better or am I secretely ok with being a victim of the disease? If I want to feel better, why dont I demonstrate actions that show I care about myself? Im not pointing fingers at anyone except myself here but Im pretty sure Im not the only one feeling like I do💜

[Agora1]

#1 and all important in going forward.

Thank you Hoski for sharing this post. xx

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It touched my heart. At age 66, Im discovering Im very good at talking the talk but not walking the walk.

[Motherless_Daughter]

This is indeed very powerful and I can totally relate to your entire post. I too often tell people that nobody wants to be with someone like me and that I don’t even want to be with me most of the time. It’s sucks to feel that way...like you don’t want to be around yourself.

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We need to give ourselves empathy

[NeuronerdDoaty]

And I appreciate your DIL as well. What a lovely message to receive.

The last time I got something from my DIL fb would have removed it had I not done it first.

Khalil Gibran is one of my favorite poets/writers.

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Im very fortunate to have a dil I love like Im her bio mom

[Jeff1943]

Hoski, what you describe is exactly what Cognative Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is designed to overcome. Namely the problem of low self esteem. That appears to be the issue so maybe you would benefit from CBT.

But there is another way of interpreting the above quote. Not only the importance of having confidence in our abilities but the fact that too often we are our own worst enemy.

When we feel that flash of first fear we add second fear to it. Fear is what keeps our nerves over sensitised and causes all the symptoms of anxiety disorder.

When our doctor tells us the tests were fine we think he's 'missed something' and prefer the second opinion of Doctor Google who will of course confirm our worst fears.

We are lucky enough to live in the 21st century when medical science has developed meds that will bring respite from our demons. But long before the meds have kicked in (which can take at least 3 weeks) we've decided to stop taking them because they're not working and all those side-effects 'we were expecting' have started to appear.

I could give other examples but won't.

Low self esteem is a symptom of anxiety disorder and anxiety disorder is driven by fear. You may ask: how do we free ourselves from fear then? And I will give you the answer: through understanding, reassurance and drawing on the reserves of courage that people with anxiety disorder have in abundance.

Oh yes you do! People with anxiety are among the bravest on the planet and you prove it daily by your power to endure.

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Very interesting and I can see your points. Ive had 2 visits with my therapist so far, still in the getting to know you phase. I will ask about CBT. Thankyou💜 Jeff 1943

[Kkimm]

Very interesting post Hoski.

[Starrlight]

❤️

[Optimists]

Hoski, you nailed every word! We simply just need to BE, nothing more.😊🤗

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Thankyou💜 Walking the walk is harder than talking the talk but taking one step forward is progress