Why us?

It seems like everyone here has so much kindness to give every day. And the world around us seems to barely have any left. So my point is are the depressed/ anxious the part of society left who truly care and that’s why all these different things can tear us apart, when others hardly seem to care? It was kind of a weird thought I just wonder if anyone else has thought this.

[Hidden]

Yes!! Totally agree. I dont know if we were kind sensitive people before and that's why we have depression anxiety or if we became more sympathetic since having to deal with this. Who knows if that made us easy prey for some of our circumstances or not. The people who don't care or dismiss us haven't been through trauma I think or had depression or any mental illness. I think we are much better people because of it. I know I am much stronger and more caring.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I too have become more strong and more caring. like you said I’m not sure which came first, the sensitivity then the illness or the illness made me more sensitive. But either way I think I’m a better person for it.

[mira99]

Wow that’s a concept I hadn’t thought of? We are not weak,bad, wrong, unlovable we are the good guys and we attract bad guys ... yeah I like that

[Hidden in reply to mira99]

Yeah it’s something I’m starting to see after joining this site.. I hadn’t really considered it until I saw all these other people with the same struggles and it kind of just hit me.

[bluestars725]

Yes, I agree. I'm not sure what came first either, my illnesses or my sensitivity, but I definitely think that my mental illnesses contribute to the level of which I feel everything. Everything is too much because of my depression and generalized anxiety disorder. That's when I slip into a depressive episode or a bad stretch of anxiety. However, on the flip side of that, I feel like because I'm so aware of my own feelings, I can read other people pretty well and I'm more sensitive to others feelings.

[teemo1]

Yes, I often wonder why it is I have this anxious condition. I try to remember that my anxiety disorder is not so much something that happens to me as it is something that I do to myself. I try to remember that people who have not experienced this are not able to understand or help. I try to remain hopeful that some good will come of this someday.

[Agora1 in reply to teemo1]

teemo1, something good will come of all this one day. You will learn more about

yourself than most people ever will. You will become a better person for it. A more

empathetic one to others who suffer from health as well as mental issues. That is

a good thing.

[All_alone]

Interesting thought... I have never thought of it that way but it seems quite true. I know people that have never had any type of mental illness or have had to see someone close suffering do seem oblivious. Like when someone says, dont worry, it will be ok, that's life, just deal with it, don't think about it. I'm sure that list goes on forever. When I'm out, I do try to smile and say hello to strangers because no one knows what is going on in their lives. They could very well be in a dark place also and a kind word just might may a difference in their day. I shared with one friend months back that I was thinking about making an appointment with my psychiatrist (she knows I have one but also knows very little about my bouts of depression) but knew I was struggling. Her response, well you can only answer that then changed the subject. She has also never asked if I made an appointment or anything. Sad!

[BoohPear]

Hi. I've thought about this before so I'm glad I'm not alone there. Thoroughly agree with you, and yes the amount of love, help, consideration that gets sent to you from all these members is astounding. We all care and it shows in the many replies. I'd like to thank all of you who have helped me.

[BoohPear]

Continued from above...pressed reply by mistake. Just Thank You All. Maz😺xxxx

[Red50 in reply to BoohPear]

Hi I think what everyone is saying is so true. The outside world has become selfish, I have suffered from severe depression and anxiety for 30 years and most of the people along my journey have very dismissive and insensitive to this awful illness. On here you meet such lovely, caring people. Love Kalsoom

[HopeWithSmile]

This is actually true. Very true.

I think, that people without depression/anxiety don’t really understand the power of kindness, because they don’t really need it. They do not overthink, they do not have this dark cloud over their head, they are not afraid of being alone in silence because they won’t hear this inner voice that shakes us.

A mere smile and kind word can help us, for the others - it’s just a smile and a word.

[Hidden in reply to HopeWithSmile]

So true , a smile and a kind word goes a long way, but hardly anyone seems to take the few seconds it takes to do so, besides someone else like us