Relationship stuff

[Kat63]

How much togetherness should a couple have?

My bf and I have always been very good about having our own individual interests and activities. But before the separation, we did more things together. (We we’re separated for four years and about 3 months ago agreed to try to get back together.)

This morning, he went to the museum without asking me if I wanted to go.

I’m a little hurt. But:

1 - He was always more heavily into the museum than I am. It was always more “his” than “ours” or “mine.”

2 - He does do things together with me. A few nights ago he took me out to dinner. Last night he took me to see “Rocketman.”

3 - I do things without him. Every week I go to a knitting group without him. Once a month I go to a book group without him.

I’m not sure how I should feel about this.

[Hidden]

Maybe you should have a talk with him about how you're feeling....it could make for a great conversation between the both of you...

I wish you all the best...let us know how you make out..well if you want to!

Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy n hugs for you!!!

[kenster1]

hi I wouldn't read to much into it maybe he likes the museum as its his me time.

[Kat63 in reply to kenster1]

That’s close to what I’m thinking.

[Emmlish]

Hi there, I understand your worry, sometimes the small things can make us think that something deeper is going on. But sometimes we just need some time alone, as kenster1 mentioned. This is probably the case

[Kat63 in reply to Emmlish]

The rest of the day went pretty well for us. So it was just me being overly-sensitive to possible rejection.

[Emmlish in reply to Kat63]

I know how it is :))

[Hidden]

Do you feel hurt if you go to places without him, or do you only hurt when it's the other way around?

A bit of advice, if someone has an interest in something don't stop them from doing it, in fact encourage them, most people need a bit of me time. Would you rather he sits infront of the telly every evening in a trance.

I think it's very healthy if people in a relationship have their own interests..