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Finally see the lack of love in my family

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I've grown up with a mother that has criticised me and a father that withdrawals and ignores me which is all abuse and punishment. I've been denying this for ages and have maintained that both sides (divorced) have been loving. Today, one of the cats is dying and I sat with her crying and saying beautiful things to her. When my dad and step Mom came home I told them that's she's dying and need love and they gave her food. My step Mom said she was taught that crying isn't allowed and shows me how cold a life I've been living taking on adopted beliefs that are absolutely ridiculous actually. I stand for love and I CHOOSE to heal and integrate these parts so that I can be authentic and be my true self. This is such a cold way to live and I feel so sad that people out there don't know they have choice....this is a reminder to myself and others that we do have choice. I now also finally accept what I've been denying.

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You should be very proud of yourself that you are who you are..sadly we can't change other people...if they a toxic towards you do your best to stay calm and busy..so you don't have time for them...don't expect different from them, then you won't be disappointed with them...continue do do the wonderful you!

I'm so sorry about your cat...I'll keep you both in my heart....

Dump trucks filled with love, peace, light, joy n hugs for you!!!

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Thank you.xxx

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It is an amazing moment when we realise what has happened to us and how this has affected our lives. I believe that is the beginning of true healing.

I am on that journey myself... I have a loving and beautiful soul and no-one is going to deny me ever again.

There was never anything wrong with me; it was just what HAPPENED to me.

Well done you!! :) xx

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Thank you. Xxx

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