Friends

[Katelynjh77]

So I have this friend that we’ve been on and off friends for about 10 years. She only comes around when it’s convenient for her. She will constantly say she doesn’t have money to do things but spend the same amount with someone else. She calls me all the time just to vent and scream on the phone about her problems and it has just been stressing me out. I asked her to go away for one day with me and my other friends for my beitdqy and she made up every excuse not to. She expects me to be there for her but then distances herself and leaves me in the dust when something better comes along. Just getting a call of her bitching through out the day makes me all crazy and I don’t need it. Everything I do is wrong and she judges everything about me. Yet I’m my own person and I like to do my own things. I don’t want to be rude because then she says I’m a bad friend and I know I’m not. Should I confront her about it or just ignore her.

[foxglove_pnw]

Hi Katelyn , the word is boundaries ! If you think the friendship is worth than you should talk to her .

If you think you can talk to her , that is great !

Good luck !

[hypercat54]

Hi to be honest if this was me I wouldn't be available when she rings. I presume she rings your mob? Well her no. should come up so you can even block her if you want. If you are forced to answer ask her firmly to keep it short as you have an appointment in a few minutes. Just gradually fade away from her and hopefully she will get the message.

Don't include her in anything you and your friends do either and maybe tell them about her so they can protect you. Good luck. x

[Sunnidayz1]

It sounds like she's not being a good friend to you. A healthy friendship is a 2 way street: you give, they give. If she is not giving as much you are giving it's time to move on. You deserve better. Nobody has time for negativity.

[Jeff1943]

This person is not your friend. They bring you grief when friends bring you happiness. Explain this to her and end your contact with her.