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[Lonelyfloater93]

I hope everyone elses day has been ok... Mines has been horrible.. I had an awful night lastnight.... My bf hurt me... Emotionally.. Ive been trying to refrain from contacting him all day.. As he said he doesnt care what i do... I just.. Really really need someone to talk to.. I added the image.. So maybe i could get some advice.. Maybe

[Marshall64]

You need a little more backstory. It sounds like you are both frustrated though...

[Lonelyfloater93 in reply to Marshall64]

Well basically.. Before we were official... He was talkin to me and in a sense someone else as well.. He was also intimate with her 2 times.. They supposedly have been friends since school.. So i found out about it.. Because he hadnt told me.. Long story short eventually he calls me and calls her and puts her on speaker.. So i can hear him tell her.. They cant talk anymore.. He tells me at the time hes blocked her.. Fast forward now hes saying shes been calling.. Im like how would you know if you said you blocked her.. Im just lost.. And im hurt.. I really try to give my all.. I do.. Hes mad at me because i broke up with him over the situation.. Which all i did was ask him not to hurt me.. Toy with me.. Idk if we can get pass this.. Or am i reaching..

[NoMonkeyBusiness in reply to Lonelyfloater93]

I don’t know your bf so I can’t really speak on his behalf. However, maybe it could be possible she’s called him and he knows this because he answered by mistake one day and since then the number keeps popping up on his phone? There are possibilities of the worst but also possibilities of better things, if that makes sense?

Regardless, it sounds like there is a lack of trust for one reason or another. And if there is a lack of trust in any relationship, friends and family included, there isn’t much of a relationship. Hope you can figure something out and do what is best for you.

[Hidden in reply to Lonelyfloater93]

Well. I block people all the time. But if someone leaves a voicemail I will know that blocked person left a message because the message will be there.

[Lonelyfloater93 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for that... Your the second person whos said that.. And im starting to feel like an ass.. A lil..

[Hidden in reply to Lonelyfloater93]

No ass feeling. Be cautious. It’s your body. And people are not honest all the time. I go through bfs phone. Go through his social media and phone and if he has a problem with you doing that he is hiding something. There is no reason why you can see what’s up. But wait until you with him. Ask to see his phone. If he refuses. Then he hiding somewhat. Something.

[Lonelyfloater93 in reply to Hidden]

Im going to do just that..maybe immissing sumb

[IChoose]

I don't know either. Best I can say is that I remember when I was young and all I wanted was a relationship with a man, it didn't matter if I was miserable. That must be a reflection of the family I grew up in, cause where else do you learn it?

[Lonelyfloater93 in reply to IChoose]

You might be onto something... But idk.. He truly makes me happy.. Together we connect on a different mental level... Like.. We're in our 20s talking about God and how to build ourselves spiritually together.. Its so much.. And.. Idk..

[IChoose in reply to Lonelyfloater93]

Exactly, I must have felt that somewhere because I was very concerned to not interfere with the relationship. A therapist once told me that all is for our growth. Perhaps these relationship trials will be part of the two of you growing together.

It's really good that you're bouncing this all off of others to gain perspective. You should know that it's been so long since I was in a relationship I've stopped counting, and it is a source of sadness I my life..

[Lonelyfloater93 in reply to IChoose]

Its still pretty rough though... Im still contemplating.. Just the things he says... It never adds up.