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Hi everyone.

I never thought I'd ever be writing this. Over the past few years as well as off and on throughout my entire life I have really struggled with depression. I think many situations and circumstances have made it extremely difficult for me to overcome feeling down and depressed and it has been getting worse over the last few years. I have probably been my weakest I have ever felt and after so many times of the never ending cycles I experienced of crying, sleeping the days away, letting things go that were important to me, struggling in college, ruining opportunities for myself I have lost who I am. I let myself down so many times and depression has gotten in the way of my life for far too long so now I've finally decided to do something about it. My last semester of college I walked across the stage and the very next week I learned that I had failed a few classes and that I would have to be right back in the classroom again. This semester was leaning towards another disaster ending and I was starting to give up on everything I wanted. After many days of crying and feeling like nobody understood what I was going through I decided to finally make an appointment with a psychiatrist. I saw him a few weeks later and was prescribed medication. I have had a hard time dealing with the side effects at first but I believe it has helped me a little. I contacted my college's disability services counselor where she scheduled me an appointment to come talk to her and I cried in her office the entire time the issues I was having with depression and how I thought I was going to fail my classes and get kicked out of the university. Luckily for me, I was able to get assistance from my professors after I met with her and she told me that it was making a big step to come into her office that day. Even though I was feeling really worried I was going to fail and nothing would work out for me, I needed someone to tell me that sometimes its OK to ask for help when I need it.

Last week I went to a therapist for the first time too. I am hoping that therapy will help me cope with depression and learn how to overcome everything I have been feeling lately. I know that this will be a process and a long road to recovery. I hope I can find support groups in my area and its good to know that I am not alone. I want to fight every day to become stronger. What do you guys do to help you cope with your symptoms for depression?

What makes you guys feel better?

How can I fight my episodes of feeling down and depressed when I can't get out of bed in the morning?

What works best for you?

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Hi Katie :) welcome! That is so great to hear that you seemed out the help you needed. You should be proud of taking those steps to better yourself and your life. For me personally, when I’m feeling hopeless, I try to do the things that make me the happiest. There are some times however, when I don’t have even the motivation to do the things I love so I just end up sitting on the couch avoiding responsibilities like cleaning my apartment or doing things I like. That’s been happening a lot recently and I know I need to break that cycle but it’s really hard for me to get out of. I’m always here to talk to if you need to or if you just wanna chat :)

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Thank you, I really appreciate it!! It was very hard to look for help and at times I felt like maybe I didn't need help but I know I really desperately do. I still have been struggling although it is a relief knowing that I can improve. I can totally relate to you about the motivation thing. I have absolutely no motivation, mostly ever to do anything. It makes me feel so lazy and it is hard to take care of responsibilities and be financially stable when I have trouble with staying motivated. I have gotten so good at avoiding my responsibilities that I can make up any excuse up in the book for myself and feel ok with it. I am hoping these are some things that I can eventually get better about. Thanks for reaching out to me, its always good to talk to someone.

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Hey maybe we can help motivate each other! :) ya never know :)

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Yes, we can! I never know what to do to snap out of it!

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Me too and I also make excuses to myself all the time. Let’s let each other know the next time we feel like this so we can talk each other out of our bs excuses 😆

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I would love that!

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Ok awesome :) I’ll make sure to message you next time! We got this! I believe in us 😆

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Yes, and I will be messaging you as well! Thanks for being awesome! :)

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Yes I can completely relate to that feeling. I am a very low key person, I have a very introvert personality so to a lot of people I may seem quiet. It makes me often feel like I am an outcast or if I am around a group of people I don't know where I fit in at. If someone makes time to socialize and make me a part of everything going on or considers my help in a situation, I feel a little more important as well.

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That's a good thing though! I always envy people who can do that. I talk and people look at me like "you speak?"

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Haha, I think everyone is different in their own way. I know a lot of my family members think I'm antisocial or that I must not care. that is not the case but I guess thats the vibe i give off

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😆😆😆😆😆😆

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Haha. I love to listen to my music loud. Its the best!!!

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You may be better off than us kids. We may all be going deaf before the age of 60!

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Hi what worked for me was quite strange really. It's many years ago now but it was when I finally realised that I was on my own in life. My family didn't care or try and help - quite the reverse. I had been in hospital, meds, and had therapy etc. It just made me feel worse.

I took full ownership of my depression and made a decision that I would rely only on myself (apart from group therapy) and the decision to live or die was mine and mine alone.

Once I decided I was going to try and find a life I could live in and be relatively content I turned all my thoughts outward towards achieving it. I started to improve from that day onwards.

Ok I still have depression but I learned to accept and work with it rather than denying it. My life has been limited because of it but hey ho I do have a life which I wouldn't otherwise have had.

Not quite sure what I am saying here to help and sorry for rambling. x

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