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Why when others express anger, it’s “healthy & constructive” or a natural reaction or honest expression... but when I express anger, it’s scary & misplaced & mis-worded or I’m told “you need help for your anger”.

Why is my anger wrong.

What makes my anger less than or scarier or not okay.

It doesn’t seem fair.

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Who told you this?

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I told myself this... except for the part about needing help

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So it wasn't someone else that told you it, your anger is the same as any other person's I'm sure.. are you angry more often than other people?

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Thank you for your replies jimmyjimmy.

I don’t think I am angry more often than others. But I am angry often... so maybe I’m wrong. Maybe I am.

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hypercat54 in reply to brokenlight

Hi what I will say is that anger has to be expressed in a socially acceptable way unless of course it's with your close family or friends. We are all entitled to be angry sometimes though with good reason. I use humour a lot to express my anger but am rarely annoyed enough to snap at others.

Can you identify what you get angry about? x

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brokenlight in reply to hypercat54

Thank you hypercat54.

Humor is great & I’m glad it helps to express your anger.

What am I angry about? That’s such a fantastic question for real.

Honesty, I think I’m angry at so many things that it has just become a cluster %#*$ of rage.

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Hi make a list of things that make you angry, then see if you can find a common theme. It doesn't matter how long it is then study it carefully to see if you can identify what type of thing makes you most angry.

Why not put it on here and we can give you our opinions? x

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I don’t even know how I would start such a list...

Might be easier to create a list of the things that don’t make me angry lol.

I appreciate your responses & for giving me something to reflect on.

Thank you hypercat54 ✨

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hypercat54 in reply to brokenlight

You are very welcome. How about a list of the top 10 things then? x

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