Social anxiety and feeling ashamed and feeling like people view me as a bad person

[itgetsbetter5]

I have social anxiety and I just get so self conscious about my face particularly my eyes because I have this fear of looking anxious or serious or bored or rude. I just overthink every part of my face so I avoid facing people as much as possible, because I know if they saw me anxious, I would look unfriendly and will end up pushing them away,thus this is the reason why my colleagues probably dislike me. Does anyone think like this too or am I losing it? 😪

[Hidden]

I struggle with social anxiety, it affects us all in different ways ..your not losing it..

Therapy can help, learning about ourselves and why we feel how we feel, helps us better manage it all...knowledge is power and I believe we can manage things in time...

It takes time..

Good wishes xx

[itgetsbetter5 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I’m currently on a waiting list for therapy, I hope it will help me alot

[Hidden in reply to itgetsbetter5]

It helps me better manage things

Good wishes with it.

Hope it helps you x

[itgetsbetter5 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for the kind words 🙌🏼 , wishing you the best too x

[Hidden in reply to itgetsbetter5]

😊💕🌺

[koalalover22]

i know how tht feels. it sucks but right now not to get into my feels im listening to music.

[BrooksHatlen23]

I see you’re on a waiting list for therapy, that’s good and I wish you the best (you’ll do fine. I may not know you but I believe in you, if for no other reason you’re actively looking for help). In the meantime I’ll give you the advice I wish I’d have received so many years ago. Don’t retreat. If you’re feeling anxious or even a panic attack excuse yourself go to the bathroom slap some water on your face and back of your neck and remind yourself you’re as good as everyone else. Unfortunately I went the other way. When I was hit with a bad panic attack or overwhelming anxiety I would leave and go home. I ended up completely agoraphobic and have left the house only to see doctors over the past 9 years. Also when one never leaves the house there isn’t much to do but eat and two weeks ago I was diagnosed with diabetes, so use me as a cautionary tale. So don’t retreat, get therapy and I truly believe you’ll be okay probably even happy.

Best wishes and hang in there

[itgetsbetter5 in reply to BrooksHatlen23]

Thank you. This resonates with me as whenever I get a panic attack I automatically switch to flight mode (spaced out and mushy thoughts) which puts me in such a low mood and my goal is to ground myself when it happens. I’ve been saying yes more to any social events so I hope these help with my social anxiety. I used to stay at home back in my highschool years and only left for school and very rarely family outings and that went on for 4 years but now I’d say I’ve improved alot and leave my house atleast 4 times a week for work and just going outside to do things so theres always hope I guess. Best wishes! 🌸

[gb14]

You’re definitely not losing it, it’s very common with people with social anxiety to feel this way. Maybe try to search for some CBT techniques? I hope you’re doing well ♡