Feeling really scared

[2017runner]

I am just really scared that things are never going to change and I am never going to feel happy again. I am also afraid of everyone getting sick of me and being left all alone in the world. My husband will eventually leave me, my children won’t want to know me and my family and friends will stop calling. I can’t see how things are ever going to improve. I know I’ve got so much I ought to feel grateful for but all I feel is fear when I see the rest of my life stretching out in front of me as it feels terrifying

[Sober2007]

Oh I know exactly what that feels like. I just wrote a post in fact about what's going on in my marriage. Right now all I know to do is learn as much as I can about my anxiety and depression, and try to take steps to get better day by day. I use positive affirmations like "I am God's child and worthy of love" to keep things in perspective. I too am afraid of losing everyone and being left alone. All I know to do is to try to take care of myself, so I can be more useful to others - whoever they may be. I am encouraged by all the things I have learned here and the positive results I am getting the more I try new things to relieve the anxiety and depression. I am feeling better one step at a time. There is hope.

[Snowyowl23]

I have had similar feelings over the last several days. Know that you are not alone in how you feel - there are other people out there too who are experiencing similar. I can relate to how you feel - the idea of family just up and leaving because they’re tired of you is absolutely terrifying. The fear is crippling, and makes you want to hide away and not do anything.

[Jeff1943]

2017runner, all those things you fear will never happen, it is only anxiety whispering in your ear. There is no need to listen to the worrisome thoughts it plants in your mind.

You see, when our nerves become super sensitive through stress every small fear and minor concern becomes exaggerated out of all proportion. This is why you have convinced yourself that these calamities will happen even though they will never come to pass.

You do not see yourself as others do, they have a higher opinion of you than you do yourself. Maybe it doesn't show the way it should in the hurly burly of daily life but it is there nevertheless.

Some worry or worries have caused your high anxiety, if you can resolve them you would see your life differently. Do not be afraid to ask advice from someone you trust on how to bring this about.

Fear is corrosive, it spreads like wildfire, you have allowed it to cloud your judgement and your thoughts. Renounce fear, it is a trick that nervous exhaustion is playing on your mind, nothing more.

Life lies ahead, it is never an easy path but the good times will outweigh the setbacks. Remember, you have nothing to fear and go forward confident of good years to come.

[snow_queen]

I'm a bit late but I know how you feel. I also am usually convinced that I've done something wrong I can't figure out, or I'm not a fun or nice or enjoyable person to be with anymore, and that my people don't/won't like me anymore and will leave. so far I have not been right in those assumptions, but somehow I still can't completely shake them. people tell me life will get better but sometimes its terrifying to not know when, and to feel like I don't know how to hang on till then.

one thing I've found helps me is to think of something thoughtful and nice to do for some people close to me (for example, I like to bake so I bake my friends cookies, but even something as simple as a nice text out of the blue is great). it's not a bribe to stay friends with me but instead is more of a reminder that I love and value them. the people you do the nice thing for feel good and so do you because you've done something productive and you made someone else feel good

[RoseyViolet]

I used to have mental battles just like you are having until I realized I didn't have to listen to all the lies and deception running around in my head everyday. When I feel the slippery slope of negative thoughts and self talk that isn't uplifting I switch gears mentally when I recognize the triggers. What I mean by that is, I literally say in my mind, "NO, this is NOT true!" I pray, forgive myself for listening to the lies and then do an about face move and turn the other direction mentally. I do this by replacing lies with truth. Truth found in God's Word. I meditate on scriptures that provide hope, forgiveness, healing. I also listen to worship music, it always helps me to remember whose I am and that there is hope found in Jesus Christ. I pray for you my friend. You are loved, you are worthy and there is hope.

[2017runner in reply to RoseyViolet]

Thank you, I try to not engage with them too, but it is sometimes hard to ignore them. Sending you love and thanks xxxx