I feel I have an elevated irritation with people who gossip or just generally talk bad about others behind their back. I roll my eyes and think oh my goodness this person is so miserable in their own life, that they have nothing going on or worth being humble for, that they result to assassinating another persons character. So sad.
When people do this, know that humble people can see your insecurities spew off the tip of your tongue and splash off the walls. It makes you ugly. Just be humble. You may never know the struggles going on in someone's life. Offer to help and be a servant to the world, not destroy people to validate yourself. #BeKind #BeHumble
Today, I listened to 2 ladies bash another lady behind her back for leaving her husband of 15 years. Little do they know, that the lady being discussed was being beaten, and the children molested. What she did was courageous, and should be recognized for that. Not destroyed. 🙏🏼
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It's sad how much gossip, and critical judgement is on this planet.
When I worked full time, it was usually women causing the drama, and gossip during the day. It made it difficult to be friends with these types of women.
I always said, Id rather have men as my boss working outside the home!
The worst was when my 47 yr old fiance died a few yrs ago. One gal I thought was a friend for 20+ yrs, started a rumor that my fiance did not die in my arms & more.....
He did die in my arms in his house, our home. This was an awful thing to do to me as I grieved my loss, and still do at times. U couldn't believe how petty and cruel this person was with her gossip! She took it to Facebook & our former classmates began asking me why she was saying all this garbage right after my love died....i don't know ? Except she & her husband are drinkers & I asked them once not to bring over their alcohol when my fiance was a recovering alcoholic, dying from,cancer. I guess that made her mad.
It almost destroyed me...
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I lost my only child in 2007. He was 11. To be humbled to a point where truth is more vibrate than the behavior of dark hearts is both a blessing and a curse. It allows us to see through B.S. of people and at the same time, to see the world on a society level as you described beautifully above. As a human civilization we are focused on the wrong things, and it's sad to imagine what we could do if there was less habit to gossip. This is probably the core of my frustration and anxiety. Sorry to hear about your Fiancee. No one deserves to be treated by another in that way. I'm sure today you are more conscious of your friend's because of it. 🙏🏼
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I'm am so sorry for your loss. Losing a child, has got to be the worst! Hugs
They now gossip about me and call me a hermit..I struggle with social anxiety and they make life rather difficult for me ..as on bad days I will stay in rather than go out if they are out there ...I so wish people wouldn’t judge and live and let live...it can be torturous ..
Good wishes xx
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Hermits have all the fun. Movies, music, books, food, planning next life move, etc. I have social anxiety because I wish I was back at home being a hermit, away from shallow people. I say embrace being a hermit to the fullest.
I agree. I try to stay away from people like that, it just speaks volumes about how they see their own lives to make themselves feel better.. It's like anything else though, it's important to surround yourself with the right people. The answer is not to keep away from people the answer is to find the right people to be around. I have found too that those people who gossip are extremely negative in general and for that reason I stay away too. You gotta put a wall up and look the other way & look for your people. Just like there are negative people out there are positive people out there too.
The answer is never to withdraw or isolate. That just leaves the door open for depression and makes social anxiety worse.
Yup, there are so many good people in the world who don’t get caught up in the gossip. People who want to enjoy and care for other unconditionally. Find a few good friends and life is pretty fun.
So true that isolation makes social anxiety worse..
There's always two sides to a story, and I think gossiping often times focuses on just one side, or gossip can be made up (rumors). Gossiping in and of itself is not a bad thing, though, and I'll explain why. Good gossip can go around, like hearing people talk about how they like the new person at work. Negative gossip, though, which is what you experienced, is when it becomes frustrating. I've been guilty of it (who hasn't?), but these days, I stop myself from doing it. This is because, like I said, there's always two sides to a story. Having a better understanding is how you can better accept things for how they are. You understanding the lady's reason for leaving her husband has made you better accept the fact that she did.
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