I wish it were my anxiety..

[Everydayisrough]

So tired of things going wrong. I wish I could say my anxiety was making things bad. But nope shit just literally keeps happening sending my anxiety into overdrive. Realllyyyy starting to wonder why they claim life is so good

[beachmom]

Hey there. The same thing always happens here too. When it rains, it pours (so to speak) Since 2019 began; I turned 50 (yikes) my car got hit, our backyard fence was damaged during a storm. I lost my job & my health insurance, my father-in-law was diagnosed with stage III lung cancer, our furnace broke 3 days ago. There is more, but I completely know how you are feeling. Hang in there, it will get better.

[Everydayisrough in reply to beachmom]

Yikes! U definitely get it. Im sorry you're struggling so much as well. Like u said we just gotta hang in there!

[Hidden]

What things have gone wrong for you?

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hidden]

I was hospitalized for hemmoraging a month ago needed blood transfusion. Then my daughter caught the flu. My brother is in the hospital with possible lymphoma. I accidentally hit someones car today. And thats only half 😏

[Hidden in reply to Everydayisrough]

That is a lot to deal with...but things cant keep going like that forever, you will see.

I think we all go through hard times but they always come to an end. ☺️

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hidden]

Thank you! I sure hope so lol ive been snapping at people out of anger and I know its not their fault 🙈

[Hidden in reply to Everydayisrough]

I get like that sometimes, like a bear with a sore tooth lol

You seem ok now though, nice and calm. ☺️

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hidden]

Haha feeding my kids so that keeps my mind busy and not angry lol

[Hidden in reply to Everydayisrough]

Best way to be is busy I think..

I can't picture you bing angry though lol you seem to be really nice 😊

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hidden]

Aww haha thank you for that. I am usually nice. Just have low tolerance for BS 😏

[Hidden in reply to Everydayisrough]

BS, there can be a lot of that around at times 😂 I try to ignore it these days or I laugh at it.

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hidden]

I try to laugh too. Just been having bad days and and let anger get the best of me.. wait im a woman ill blame hormones.. yep thats it lol

[Hidden in reply to Everydayisrough]

Oh the hormones, yeah it must be them lol what am I going to blame? 😂

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hidden]

Hmmm 🤔🤔 you could try hormones too.. I mean it may not work but u can try lol

[Hidden in reply to Everydayisrough]

Ok I'll give them a go and see lol I think you might be right about them not working though 😂

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hidden]

Lol! When you do, if you could record it. that'd be great lol 😁🤣🤣

[Hidden in reply to Everydayisrough]

On video? 😲

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hidden]

Haha yes. Itd be funny to see people reactions when u blame hormones lol

[Hidden in reply to Everydayisrough]

Seeing me getting a punch in the face wouldn't be funny 😂

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hidden]

Oh noo! That wouldn't be at all. Okay never mind lol dont do it. Whenever u get angry blame it on me lol

[Hidden in reply to Everydayisrough]

That's the best idea I have heard in ages, I'll blame it on you, thanks fo that lol

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hidden]

Lol! Sounds good. Be sure to tell them "Its Melanies fault". Thats not my name but u can use it 🤣

[Hidden in reply to Everydayisrough]

Well ok then, it was Youlanies fault 😋

You are so kind 😂

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hidden]

🤣🤣🤣 im literally cracking up

[Hidden in reply to Everydayisrough]

I'll get my glue!

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hidden]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🙈🙈🙈🙈😅 how about duck tape. Fixes everything

[Hidden in reply to Everydayisrough]

If you prefer it then ok 😂

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hidden]

Hahaha. We'll go with duck tape. Itll look prettier 🤣

[Hidden in reply to Everydayisrough]

That is a good point, I'll get my duck tape then 😂 I'll use the whole roll on you 😋

[JLoInCali12]

I hear you - I move on Monday and some really crappy stuff has happened this last week - SO stressful and depressing, but I keep telling myself that I've dealt with crappy stuff before and things worked out. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, talking positively to yourself that you can and will get through this, and do some self-care.

[Everydayisrough in reply to JLoInCali12]

Aww. I hope things get better for you.. it definitely is a struggle. Positive thoughts are needed just gets hard when things keep going wrong lol

[JLoInCali12 in reply to Everydayisrough]

Thank you! Yes - there's a member her Gerred who posts a lot of inspirational quotes/sayings, which I find helpful. He posts most days - if you get a chance check out his posts. 😊

[Everydayisrough in reply to JLoInCali12]

Awesome. I definitely will thanks again 😊

[Hidden]

It truly is how you react, meaning how you process what is happening. For me God is the way, the truth and the life, so when I process a situation I am learning to know who is in control. But if you have not answered God’s call on your life yet, try positive thinking, remembering mind over matter. How you allow the situation to go through your mind over what is happening. God’s blessings.

[hzhang35]

Sorry for what has happened to you. It will pass even kidney stone does (had twice). Everybody here is struggling one way or other. Life is never mearnt to be easy.

[Hidden]

I find that when things are not going the way I want in my life, sometimes my mindset needs to be looked at. Yes you needed a transfusion but you lived, your daughter got the flu, but she had you to take care of her, your brother might have lymphoma, but he is in the hospital getting the care he needs. For me changing how I look at things helps greatly. Praying you find guidance and peace during your trying times.

[aquablue6543]

Being gong through a lot of pain and discomfort was diagnose with neck degeneration dizziness, neck stiffness, and feeling of faint, nothing seems to help with all these test and doctors. barely coping at work and home feels like my life is slipping away, due this I'm feeling depress and popped of feeling of getting crazy. Just don't know what to do anymore and at the verge of losing my job. sigh

[JumpingFrog]

I'm not saying it's true but I really believe it's how you see things. I was once the most chilled out guy ever, then I focused on all that was going wrong and they were going wrong big time. However I've started to say what happens happens ( I still get anxiety) and let it just happen and go. One thing you can be sure of time passes and what's bad today is just yesterday's memory

[marheart]

I'm wondering if it's your depression and/or medications that are increasing your negativity.

[Everydayisrough in reply to marheart]

I actually am not on medication. It could be the depression adding to what i feel. But its been a LONG period of things actually going wrong.

[marheart in reply to marheart]

Get professional help. Excuses will keep you in the past, which can not be changed. Move forward to get professional help. You can get help. You are strong, capable and willing.

I know it's difficult. The lack of consistent days makes us want to crawl into a quiet, calm empty shell.

How many people did you praise today? How many people praised (complimented) you today?

[completely-zero654 in reply to marheart]

Nobody and if they did would not believe them, have been hurt not by my husband who is the most caring man you could ever meet, my mum went to sleep 6 years ago in june, have not been me since, mum was my mother 1st then sister and then friend all 3 in one, mum remarried to a wonderful man as I thought, I saw my sister born and right up to my mum's last journey we got on, I was hurt because my stepfather didn't tell me my mum was going to hospital and maybe for the last time, and when it happened all I had was a phone call from a man who married my mum, husband took the call but somehow I knew before it rang what had happened, my sister was at the hospital but nobody, nobody bothered to let me know about my mum who had brought me up, fed me, dressed me, kept a roof over my head, my late father went off with another woman when I was 5, never supported us mum scrubbed peoples floors to pay the rent, keep us warm. Never got spoken to at mum's final day, apart from a few words of you said I was sitting in the car at the front we were going to be together, this had been planned between them before the day, not a word it had changed. I did sit in the front car with my husband and 2 strangers, my sister and her father sat in the one behind. He wanted his side of the family to be closer to my mum than me. Now all the family I have ever had has been told lies about me, this was 6 years ago many things have happened since, and I live only just round the corner of where I was born, never go out in case people point the finger at me, will never know what I did to deserve being hated like this, will never again be allowed inside the home I grew up in. I can only think of the closeness I had with mum until they met. No jealousy was thrilled to bits especially when my little sister was born, now married with 3 children, I found out by accident by someone from the village who thought I knew.

As said before in my reply nothing from that final day has ever and never will go right for me, my husband still thinks there is a jinx on where we live, maybe he is right.

[Hugo1990]

Totally get this feeling. I struggle with anxiety but at the moment it’s more than that and it’s hard to see the light when everything else seems like a shit storm. Hope you’re ok

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hugo1990]

Ditto!!! Its freaking terrible. I hope you're good!

[Hugo1990 in reply to Everydayisrough]

I’m struggling with other people getting how hard things can be, I’m sure I’ll get there. you will do to, it can’t rain forever surely there’s got to be some light coming your way after what you’ve been through. If you ever need to rant I’m always free to listen

[Everydayisrough in reply to Hugo1990]

You will get there! 🙂 thanks a bunch I really appreciate it. Hope your day goes great

[Hugo1990 in reply to Everydayisrough]

And you enjoy the little things xx

[Shellybelly5]

You sound exactly like my older brother. He seriously has the worst luck. I hope something good pops up for you soon!

[Everydayisrough in reply to Shellybelly5]

Aww im sorry ! Thanks so much I hope good things come his way too

[completely-zero654]

Bless you, know the feeling really well and same as you every single day whether it is big or small something always, always goes wrong. If I wake happy by noon I feel a complete different person and can not wait until it is bed time as when asleep it is peaceful. Then at 04:00 I am up but this is a good time as everyone else is asleep and it is just lovely to be the only one around, then daylight comes and it is the same thing day in and day out wondering what is going to happen, dare I plan anything? No way as if I do something will come up and throw everything out of zinc, it happens every day and if things did work as I wanted it to then I would think something was seriously wrong. Even blamed it on the place where I live, is there someone who lived here that doesn't like what I do, has someone put a curse on me? So many things go through your mind, I don't have the answer but do understand how you are feeling. Not going to give any advice as I don't have any but send you Good wishes xxxx

[clayjars]

I think for me, the source of my anxiety and frustration is really...me! I have an expectation of how my day should go, how people should respond, etc. When things don't go that way, i get frustrated and upset. Basically, I need to be in control of my little world. I fought hard to be in control, to be a master of my world... which just means I drove a lot of people in my life a crazy. I am a recovering control-freak and I am slowly learning that it's okay to let go. It's okay when things seem to go out of control. I am realizing that even though things don't go as I planned or expected, somehow things turn out okay, or sometimes, even better. So every morning I mentally buckle myself up for bumps (& some wild loops) along the way & remind myself that I am not God, I am not in control and I do NOT have to control outcome. I will get to the end of the ride without falling out even though sometimes I absolutely believe I am being flung out! I am getting the hang of this & actually learning to enjoy the "unexpected" in my life.