Hanging on every word

[Behere_soon]

Does anyone of incessant negative thoughts about yourself after every word you say to someone? That's exaggerated a bit, but I cant seem to relax when having a conversation with someone. I would say it's a depersonalization feeling. Any thoughts?

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I do, I think it's because I'm unconfident, and also because I've dealt with a lot of rejection. I usually think someone isn't intrigued with anything I have to say.

[Lazy_dog_lover]

Do the negative self talk persist outside of social situations? Is it only new people or people in general?

Social anxiety is a growing issue. It is a real issue, too, so don't think it is just you.

Journal about when it happens and what you say to yourself. Take that to your therapist.

Do some research on "the growth mindset" and mindfulness. Make some small cue cards with alternative, positive sayings and keep it in your pocket.

[Behere_soon in reply to Lazy_dog_lover]

It's almost like feeling stunned in place while I talk to people. I don't feel like myself, and I feel shame for not living up to the standard I created in my head of what they think about me. I have this underlining belief that no one likes me because I'm a terrible person, and not worth knowing or loving. Whoo...painful beliefs. Deep seeded. Thank you for your comment, I'm gonna look up the growth mindset for sure

I love having this platform on this website to be vulnerable.

[Lazy_dog_lover in reply to Behere_soon]

Studying Shame sounds like it could be useful, too. I was that was for a long time with codependency, then I was ok for a while, then situations happened and I am falling again. Time for me to do a refresher.

[Mumma_h]

Absolutely!! This is the source of my anxiety I think. I question everything I say and do and then go over over how stupid I've been. It's awful !

[Xena13]

It’s anxiety...and a bad habit!!!!! Dealing with anxiety will help!