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I'm ok is my favorite lie

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I have been trying not to shut down, or get silent like i use to before, trying to reply to people and forcing myself to have conversation even though my whole being is telling me to 'crawl in a hole don't talk get inside of your head don't let people reach you, the darkness is comforting' reaching out is exhausting and im trying my hardest.

Reach out to me please, i might not be able to reply or find my words, i know im cared for and i am loved but my head won't let me believe it right now

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Sillysausage234

🌻

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πŸŒ»πŸ’›

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melbrown

Big hugs & lots of love my beautiful Sunflower. We've known each other for sometime now... I really value you & love watching you grow into a wonderful, beautiful woman & friend. πŸ˜šπŸ’—πŸ«πŸŒ»

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Mel πŸ’›πŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸŒ» thanks for always being there, you and Agora from the start

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🧑🌻 yup u r stuck with us πŸ’—

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Starrlight

🌻 you are amazing. Love you 😘

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πŸ˜šπŸ˜šπŸ˜šπŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸ’› my star

You are cared for, i talk a lot lol so i will talk for both of us, i just sent you a pm, i will keep talking until you reply

β€’ in reply toIndifferentlycalm

Thank you so much

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bluestars725

I've only been here about five months, but you have always been so kind and supportive to me. I know that feeling of trying to not shut down very well, and forcing yourself to reach out even though it is exhausting. You are amazing. πŸ’•

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Hey love im trying my best, i guess that's all we can do. Im here for you

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Yes, one day at a time. Thank you so much. Here for you too. πŸ’›

You know not to listen to those thoughts. Reach out to people, we were made to have a relationship with God and that means having a relationship with the other people he created. You can say hey feeling under the weather but it sure helped to see your smile. Don’t talk about the weather you will not be able to, do not make small talk, do not tell your life story, be genuine. You are loved and supported here. πŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•

I care about you ..you are kind and deserve to feel better..

Sending love and kind wishes to you 🌹🌹🌹 xxx

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πŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸŒ»πŸ’›πŸ’›πŸ’›πŸ’› hey love, i hope you're having a great Saturday

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ITs not too bad ...expecting a storm here this weekend so it’s windy 🌬 but I’m cosy indoors...

Lots of caring vibes coming your way 🌺🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹❀️❀️❀️

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Sounds like the perfect weather for hot chocolate, it's windy and sunny here me and spidey bringing our snacks and blanket to the park . Sending you positive energy sweetie 😚😚

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Thank you and enjoy the park 😊🌹🌺🌹🌺 xxxxx

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kenster1

hi Danielle you are loved and cared for by us all.go through some of your posts and take in all the nice kind words helpful words people say to you.they are the words that really matter more than the negative thoughts.

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You're right, those words should weight more than the negative ones, im trying to get out of that little corner my depression is keeping me in, going to the park today

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hypercat54

Hi Danielle we all know you on here and I for one like and value you. One thing - if you don't want to have conversations with people sometimes that's ok. You can just say you are tired or your mind is on other things. It's ok to be quiet if you want to be. x

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I love the quiet, just not this one, when you feel so low and that depression is stuck on you like glue trying to make you get away from people cause reaching out feels exhausting then you're left alone with it. Im going to the park today with spidey, a day at the park with a good book always make me feel better. Hope you're enjoying your Saturday the weather is perfect over here 😚🌻

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JEG325

Hello, Danielle, I've only been here 6 months and I consider you one of my best friends! You are an awesome, much loved person and I sure as heck care about you! In fact, Sue and I both send love and hugs to you! If you feel like speaking, please pm me. I've been out of sorts myself lately....I know where you're coming from! (((((LOVE AND HUGS FOR DANIELLE))))) !!!!!

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brightsea1986

i don't know you, but by reading the comments to your post it is clear that you are seen, cared for, and loved. you matter.

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So are you hun, we all matter 😚🌻 hopeyou're having a great weekend

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Asaneele

Hi Danielle, I am new to this site, well not really, I usually just read peoples stories but have never had the courage to post. I wanted to reach out to you because I relate to every single word you just shared. I also wanted to say take your time, the people who really love and care for you will be here when you come back (but don't take too long). Strength to you

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Thank you for your words hun, post whenever you feel like it no rush, we'll be there for you, im a great listener 😁 sending you warms hugs πŸŒ»πŸ’›

Hi Danielle

It’s ok not to be ok.

You are enough.

Just as you are, you are enough x

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πŸ’›πŸŒ» thank you so much for these words

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Stephabbiss143

I love your choice of words. You need to be a writer. This is exactly how I feel when my anxiety and depression is at its worst. I am so very happy you acknowledge you are loved that's a huge and strong move for anyone suffering. It shows maturity and growth.

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Thank you, depression always try to make us shut down from people so that we don't ask for help, hope you're hanging in there sweetie

Thinking of you and sending peaceful vibes your way 🌺🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹 xxxx

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Want2BHappy3

Hate to say this, But that's the Norm for people who have anxiety we have to pretend we're OK? Friends and family don't want to hear about what we're going through. My kids don't want to spend time with me. I'm on Medication, helps with depression somewhat, but my stomach still feels upset everyday that's my anxiety speaking. I don't know the last time I felt HAPPY? When something good happens I feel something Bads going to happen? Don't care to much about Life, is that Living if you're Miserable most of the time?

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I use to be anxious on my good days cause i was always waiting for the big bad to come ruin it. Our mental illnesses make turn us into award winning actors, we're good at acting like everything is fine, people do care but our minds won't let us believe that

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Yea, I agree they care, but don't know how to help so they get frustrated if we're Not fine, so that's Why we pretend. So I pretty much ALONE, I have a Big Family event coming up next month so I have to put on my "I'm doing well" face.

Hey πŸ’• πŸ’• We’re all here for you

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Hey love, how's it going, hope you're having a great weekend

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marheart

Mindfulness program emphasizes positivity. Our usual and customary greeting exchange is "Hi, how are you"? Answer? "Fine, how are you?"

Yes it's an exchange of lies. We don't want to hear problems and sometimes we don't want to hear the other person is bubbling over with happiness.

Hoping someone reading this has come up with a healthy way to handle those greetings.

I tried faking feeling good which led to more depression.

I responded "Hi. So good to see you" More uncomfortable lies.

Be aware to stop Asking that question. Every little bit counts.

Next, what to say?

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Faking it makes it worse but like you said we don't want to burden people with our issues, i never like when someone ask me are you okay cause i will always say im fine even if im close to the edge

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marheartβ€’ in reply to

How does such a common greeting become so complicated.. I don't know. Mindfulness tells us to be truthful to live the life we want to lead. Lying isn't on my wish list.

There is a better way. Someone out there please give us some suggestions with a positive response.

"Hi, how are you?" And the comfortable reply is .....????

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marheartβ€’ in reply tomarheart

Oncologist walked into exam room yesterday and said "Hi, how are you?"

I burst out in laughter, smiled and said WONDERFUL! Then explained I don't know what to say except to ask him "How are you?"

We both laughed and went on with the exam. Never did find an answer from him.

Let's keep asking. The safe answer is out there somewhere!

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Gingerapple

Hi sweetie, we're all here and your silence or whatever, does not go unheard🌻🌼We are here and hear you. You are a beautiful soul and you are unique. Hugs to you, love BevπŸ€—

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Emmlish

I know exactly how hard it is, even just the will to respond and that you're trying to put yourself out there is so valuable, I really admire you. Sending you some good energy. :)

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marheart

Difficult lesson to learn. Take care of me while others are taking care of themselves.

If I don't take care of me who will?

Friends have run away scared. They must be feeling helpless not knowing what to say or do. I'm no help. I don't know what I want or need with the inconsistency of anxiety/panic disorder.

I want to be honest with myself and with others. I do not want to reject myself or others. How?

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