Anxiety du jour

[Kat63]

Today my father called. He would like me to go visit him before my new job starts.

I have mixed feelings about it.

On the one hand, my dad is 79 years old. We just lost my mother 18 months ago. I want to cherish my remaining parent as much as possible, because losing mom hurt so much.

On the other hand, my anxiety started rising again. What if I go away for three days and while I’m gone, my bf decides he likes being alone more than he likes having me around?

Why can’t I feel safe that I won’t be abandoned? I got so anxious I had to leave the bookstore I was browsing in and come home to cry.

[Starrlight]

(((((((Hug)))))))) ❤️

[Celtic27]

Hi kat your loading your self with a lot of self doubt I too lost my mum several years ago and I do worry about my dad as he's got dementia along with other health problem! If it was up to us we would love to have our dad around for ever but I just enjoy what time we may have without worrying to much! You are going to have to trust your own self regards you boyfriend if your relationship is a strong one you going to see your dad for several days you will not cause a problem! Can I suggest you try some relaxation or self hypnosis I use relaxation videos I've found on line it's early days but I find there helping! I wish you all the best and if I can help please message me!

[Stranger1276]

It might help to talk to your boyfriend. I'm sure reassurance from him will mean more than from a stranger on the internet. You obviously care about him very much so I'm sure he feels the same about you. You leaving for a few days will only make him miss you, not want you gone.

[Kat63 in reply to Stranger1276]

I did talk to him, and I feel better now.

[Stranger1276 in reply to Kat63]

I'm glad you're feeling better and I hope your visit with your dad goes well.

[JEG325]

Hello, Kat. You're still stuck in the cycle of, 'I have nothing better to do than worry about everything!'. Give your mind a break! Find something else to do. The bookstore was a good idea. Listen to some music, watch some non-emotional TV shows or documentaries. Actually read a book on something interesting. Try your hand at crossword puzzles, word searches or Suduko puzzles. Walk or jog while listening to music or something inspirational through your headphones or earbuds. Listen or watch something inspirational at home. Read interesting stories on your computer. Find a friend, neighbor or loved one to talk to. These are all part of a busy day that when you add them to your regular routine help to take up the empty time and keep you from being inside your head more. Various puzzles and such strengthen your mind and will help you with your job performance too. More social iteraction will also help

[Kat63 in reply to JEG325]

Yes, I know a large part of my problem is having too much time on my hands. This is one reason why it will be better when I start my job.

Of course, once I’m working again, I may get into a situation where I have too much to do and not enough free time. If only I could have just the right amount of free time!

[JEG325 in reply to Kat63]

Good luck with that! (lol). Some days I feel harassed with too much to do, other days like last night, I feel restless, antsy and lonely. But seldom does it line up just right. You'll be okay, Kat. We're all pulling for you! (Sunni, Kristin, Mavis, D80, CR5, AJ, Sue, me, Anna #2, Em....I could go on but, you get the point Right?)