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does anyone here tried online dating here? what's your opinion about that?

Natasha_1994
Natasha_1994

hey... i simply just want to ask you guys about something. i had this very special relationship back in 2013. but then we broke up because we have different religion. and i think he can't moved on to other girls cause everytime he has another woman in his hand after we broke up, he still likes to ask me for hang out and other intimate stuffs. until this year, he keeps doing that. so i've decided to moved on by blocked every number and his social media so he won't and couldn't contact me anymore. cause everytime he contacted me, all he want is just sex. he used me all the time and this is depressing for me. for almost 5 years, he used me. and this is one of the reason i got anxiety problem. so now i kinda wants to join online dating. what do you think about online dating? is it really works? is it a bad thing? every opinion from all of you would be very nice. really appreciate it. thanks! :)

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hi this clearly sounded like you were being used by this guy.maybe you should hang out with friends get a bit of confidence back and actual trust of men.online dating can be really dangerous and ten times worse than what you have just experienced.please think about it.

Well, yeah. I admit it now that he’s definitely used me. Just to satisfied him all the time. Ten times worse? Wow.. i will think about it again. Thanks so so sooo much, Kenster1! Have a nice day. xx

I think there's 2 sides to online dating it might work for some and it might not for others, i noticed it's more common and easier to meet people on there, im 16 so i basically spent most of my free time online, if you want to give it a shot go ahead just be careful

Really? What are you doing in the most of time when you’re online? Have you tried online dating yet?

Making YouTube videos and posting on social media, i talk to a few girls on ig but nothing serious

Oh okay.. have a nice day to you! :)

Hidden
Hidden

I agree with Kenster. I think that you’ve been through a lot in the relationship department & you need to focus on yourself for now. You’ve gotta learn self love & what it means to be alone. After you’ve conquered that, you’ll feel much better about who you date, because you will know what you deserve & will not put up with BS. Online dating can be good or bad. It’s whatever you make of it. I prefer the old fashion way of meeting someone in person, but that’s just me. I wish you well on your journey. Xoxo

Natasha_1994
Natasha_1994
in reply to Hidden

Yeah.. i want to focus on myself, but sometimes it just went really hard :( i can’t keep up on my own. Those freaking scary anxiety minds just keep hitting me.. every time when i want to focus on my self. I keep thinking that i am not good enough.. But yeah, i also think that meeting other people in old fashion way would be much better.. hey, thanks so much DistressedMermaid, have a nice journey ahead to you too! xx

Hidden
Hidden

i feel ya. it happens a lot- getting emotionally attached to someone you thought you could trust and they manipulate you to get what they want. you can’t just ‘get over them’, that takes time, especially when they keep coming back to take advantage of your feelings. if i was in your situation, i would give myself time to get over him before i started a new relationship. ive tried online dating and it can help you find people ( i had a great bf of 2 years until we ended it on mutual ground that i met online) but it can also be dangerous if you’re not careful. the trick is to be upfront about what you want, don’t ignore red flags and always meet in a public place during the day.

Natasha_1994
Natasha_1994
in reply to Hidden

Wow, that is so true. Way beyond true. I trusted him too much which is a bad thing. But, it already happened. So you’ve tried online dating? May i know what website that you’ve used?? How do you know that person is a good person? Thanks so much before :)

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to Natasha_1994

trusting someone isn’t a ‘bad thing’, someone taking advantage of your trust is what’s bad so don’t be mad at your feelings. yes, i’ve done online dating; if you want to find someone more likely to want an actual relationship, i would suggest ‘pay for’ sites since the guys who aren’t interested in anything serious will be on the free sites. i personally haven’t used pay for dating sites cuz i can’t afford them but the free site i liked was okcupid.com . if you do use the free sites, ask to facetime or skype before meeting anyone in person.

Natasha_1994
Natasha_1994
in reply to Hidden

Oh okay.... you’re so helping. Thanks so much! I will try with okcupid then hahahaha have a nice day to you, Katiekat1091! xx

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to Natasha_1994

glad i was helpful.

It depends, it may work or it may not. Ik people who got their better half online, and I also know people who had terrible experience. It depends on you how you will judge people. Make sure you know everything about him and then take it to next level. My wishes are with you :)

Aaaah i see.. thank you so much once again, Redfox9. xx

Hi Natasha, I've never actually tried online dating but it must work otherwise couples wouldn't get together. You sound as if you were used by your ex and that is horrible. I guess if you do try online dating don't let yourself be treated like that again

hey girl how r u now i read ur post its very sad that guy is not a gud person plz dont think more about him try to forget him its not easy but make happy u always and be carefull now dont go easy with anyone beacuse its too hard to find genuine person nowdays , and online dating is not a gud option find someone who really cares about u and give u hapiness always ok i am also suffering from homesickness i miss my home badly

I met my wife on a dating site. We've been married 12 years and she's the best thing to ever happen to me. I think the trick is to learn to market yourself online as truthfully as possible, while stressing your finer points as a person. Also, learn to read through the untruths that others share about themselves and stay away from those people. Keep your follow up dates brief. If you find someone who intrigues you and seems to like you back, then clearly you're on the right path.

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